The woman who married herself: An interview with Kshama Bindus spouse – Times of India

When Kshama Bindu, a 24-year-old woman from Gujarat, announced early last month that she was getting married to herself, I didnt pay much attention. But when she told the world that she was going for her honeymoon to Goa, I could no longer ignore her. I will spend time at Arambol beach where I can wear a bikini without anyone ogling at me, she said, promising to capture all my special moments on my mobile phone. She added that she was well equipped to handle questions about her spouse.

Well, I have no questions about her spouse, but had a few questions for her spouse. So, I sat down for an imaginary interview with Kshama Bindu, spouse of Kshama Bindu. Uninterrupted by calls from her spouse, she spoke. Excerpts:

Do I call you Kshama or Bindu? And what do I call your spouse?

Call me Kshama. As I am my spouse, you can call her, who is me, also Kshama.

Thats helpful, Kshama. So, how was it being your own bride and how does it feel being newly married?

Ah, the bride part was tough. A local BJP leader made a fuss over my sologamy being against Hindu practices and threatened to stop me from getting married at a temple, so it had to be a private affair. Yet it went off well. Its a wonderful feeling to be married, you know, especially to yourself since you are married to someone you know and someone who understands you.

Are you planning to have children?

Children are cute, and I err we definitely want to have them. With advances in ART its possible, but its too early to think of that. For now, I want to enjoy my married life. The best part of marrying oneself is that I can do everything travel, movies, eating out for half the price of a couple. Isnt that cuter than changing diapers without help from an extra hand?

I may be politically incorrect, but I have to ask this: Have you considered the possibility of a separation or divorce?

Not a problem. Ive thought it through. Though I am married to myself, I can have disagreements with my spouse who is myself. And I am not being philosophical here. But one thing I am certain, I will not fight with my spouse in front of our children. I think the chances of a divorce after sologamy are less, but it can happen. In the unlikely event of incompatibility and divorce, I swear I will not make it ugly. I will just divorce myself. And there would be no custodial battle for children. If my spouse, that is me, has to visit my children, I will make sure I make myself a seven-course dinner to be shared with the kids as the Madras high court has suggested. Anyway, I dont have a better half; the married me just feels full. Now that I am planning my honeymoon, I am all excited, and so is my spouse who is me.

That sounds a bit like Nithyananda

I get your attempted sarcasm, but here it is: I am not the first one to do this; sologamy has been around in the west for many years. The Netflix show Anne with an E might have inspired me to marry myself, but I wasnt being a copycat. I was being myself. What else explains I marrying me and I being happy with me? Well, if that sounds like Nithyananda, he had a point which you guys never understood.

Views expressed above are the author's own.

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