Reasons 65% of couples don’t have sex on their wedding night – Derbyshire Live

With so much traditional and societal pressure to consummate a marriage at the end of the wedding day, wedding planning experts at Hitched.co.uk recently spoke to couples to understand why they chose not to have sex on their wedding night.

This comes as new data shows 65% of newlyweds are bucking the trend , an increase in abstinence for newlyweds from 52% in 2016, where just over half of the women surveyed admitted the wedding night sex was not particularly exciting.

The reasons the couples gave for choosing to abstain vary from being too tired (or too drunk), to sharing a wall (or a room).

By the time Id taken out my hair, hed passed out

We didnt have sex on our wedding night. We stayed in The Grand, Brighton. Had an amazing bath together, shared a bottle of Champagne and then I went to put on my wedding lingerie... then decided that I needed to unpin my hair... by the time Id finished, hed passed out on the bed!

He was drunk

My ex (LOL) husband got so drunk on our wedding night that he was in bed by 8pm. I spent my night in my parents room. FML!

Honestly couldnt think of anything worse!

We absolutely did not have sex. By the time we went to bed (at 6am) Id been up for over 24 hours and the majority of that time was spent drinking. Honestly, I dont think either of us could think of anything worse. For some reason, the next day, a lot of people asked if we had sex and I had absolutely no shame in admitting we didnt and still have no regrets. Id have much rather had the amazing day and night we had, rather than feeling like we had to reign it in so we could have sex!

"We rolled around in money, eating pizza"

We stayed in a hotel and ordered pizza, but as it was 1am, I had to collect it from reception myself...in my wedding dress. I trotted back up to the room and sat on the floor in my tulle fishtail dress with the straps of my corset hanging around my chips and garlic sauce. My husband opened our cards; as people were so generous, we wanted to see all of the love (i.e. money!). So we threw it up in the air thinking of the amazing honeymoon we would have and rolled around in it eating pizza, not making love.

"Thank God for the sex toys"

My bridesmaids put rose petals, sexy lingerie and sex toys in the room we were staying at after the wedding. My husband was so drunk he passed out on the camp bed that was stored in the room, fully clothed including shoes, amongst said rose petals. I had to get another male family member to undress me on my own wedding night as I couldn't reach my buttons! Thank god for the sex toys.

"We shared a room with my parents"

We ended up sharing a room with my parents and sleeping on the floor as they jumped in the bed! Nobody checked us into our room and by the time we got back at 1am, there was only one room left in the pub we were staying in. We also had no bags with our stuff as these were in the best man's car. So I slept in a robe from the room and my husband in his whole wedding outfit! People still laugh about it now.

"The wedding lingerie didn't make it out of my bag"

I had got some wedding lingerie especially for it. My dress didn't need a bra but I made sure I got a fab bridal one. In the end I was so drunk/tired that I couldn't find it in my bag or be bothered to look. I slept in my 'Here Comes The Bride' pink heart shorts and t-shirt PJs and passed out on the gorgeous four-poster bed before my husband was out of the bathroom. No morning after sex either as we were absolutely starving and wanted to get down to breakfast without our guests.

Had too much fun to stay awake

We passed out around 3am after dancing/drinking all night - had far too much fun to stay up any longer! Wanted to stay out and enjoy the time with friends instead of retiring to bed at a sensible time.

Zoe Burke, editor of Hitched.co.uk said: "Theres just a lot of pressure to do the deed on the wedding night, but, after literal years of wedding planning, Im not surprised to hear that most couples cant be bothered to!

"Our latest National Wedding Survey showed that almost a quarter of newly married couples spent two whole years planning their big days, and unfortunately, a lot of the time the stress does not simply end with the final dance. A wedding should be filled with love, family, dancing, and good times - if after a whole day of that, you still have the energy to get it on, then fair play to you.

"Its super common for alcohol to affect how this part of the night goes.

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