‘It was a lie and I was humiliated’- Wifes polygamy shock on TV – TimesLIVE

What we have learnt out of this is that people dont understand how they should behave when they are being approached to become second wives.

"They come with the understanding that they are better, or that they are approached because they can do better than the first one. That is the biggest challenge, he said.

I think we can as a society, as people, teach one another the reason why men would want a second wife. It is not based on shortcomings of the first wife. It is generally based on an idea to expand the family.

For the first time people said it was good that the show has brought this up, that we as a society have a better understanding on what was going on.

University of Zululand lecturer Shalo Mbatha, the author of Zulu Empire Decolonised, said that according to Zulu culture, when a husband decides to take another wife, he has to inform the current wife or wives.

He does not ask for permission. If the wife or wives dont agree or do not like it, it wont stop the man from going ahead. It is done in a dignified manner and in private. Non-family members are never involved or present when the husband makes the announcement.

As for what Bheki Langa did, it will remain a mystery because as a Zulu man, he knows the drill, she said.

Former journalist and consumer activist Ncumisa Ndelu, who organised the baby shower in Durban, said she did not like the humiliation on the show.

For starters, these women are not even given time to process the fact that their husbands have been unfaithful. They are put on the spot during the lowest moment of their lives, she said.

Having said that, we need to address this is happening in our communities because the show would not have content if these things were not playing out in our communities.

In May, the home affairs department gazetted a new green paper for the Marriage Act that includes a proposal to recognise polyandry. This would allow women to be married to more than one man at the same time.

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