How do I deal with political correctness in the office? – Sydney Morning Herald

Passive aggression is an intentionally deceitful way to cut someone down without just coming out and expressing dislike or anger.

It is difficult because no back-and-forth exchange will be helpful with this person; neither will getting the supervisor or boss involved. It is almost impossible to outdo them. When the time is right, though, pull your co-worker to the side and let them know that you do not have to like each other but you can try to be respectful with each other at work.

The second scenario is an experience of outright rudeness, a direct personal attack. In this situation, Jasmine says its important to remain as calm as possible and to treat the situation with the thoughtfulness and rationality that you may feel isnt coming from the initiator.

Your timing has to be impeccable. Make sure youre not emotional and when that time comes, seize the opportunity without raising your voice, question the person about what they specifically mean by their comments.

This process of carefully listening, even to a difficult or annoying person, makes understanding their position or point of view easier, which is incredibly important in dealing with conflict. Equally important is understanding why what theyve said is hurtful to you has it, for example, undermined a value or element of your identity?

When you better appreciate what precisely they intend by their comments and why those comments have stung you, Jasmine says you have an opportunity to cool the situation down.

In a way this takes the sting out of whats happening. Then you can go to a colleague or a friend or trusted colleague and formulate a plan; youll be better able to respond.

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Although there is no single template to work with on how you confront the aggressor in fact there are countless conflict communication techniques to consider and numerous ways to actually seek a resolution Jasmine says a few things remain true no matter the situation.

The first is what weve already covered: be analytical, strategic and level-headed. Act when your emotion has subsided.

The second is that when it comes to bullying, whatever you do, dont go it alone.

And finally, be protective of your own safety.

The most important thing to remember is that you have a right to physical, emotional and mental safety at work.

If you have a work-related question, send it through to jonathan@theinkbureau.com.au

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How do I deal with political correctness in the office? - Sydney Morning Herald