8 signs you’re a mentally strong person (even if you don’t think so) – Hack Spirit

Im so weak. I dont think I can make it through this.

Ive had many friends tell me something along those lines over the years. They all thought they werent strong, brave, or resilient. They all thought they were coping terribly with the challenges that life threw in their paths.

And they are all amongst the most mentally strong people I know.

It is sometimes in our fear that we find courage, in our anger that we find meaning, and in our vulnerability that we find strength.

Here are the 8 signs youre a mentally strong person, too even if you dont think so.

It sounds so simple, yet plenty of people out there are the exact opposite theyre stuck in a victim mindset, blaming everything and anything for the misfortunate theyve co-created for themselves.

But if youre mentally strong, theres a high chance youre not like that. On the contrary, you always take accountability for your actions, no matter if theyre good or bad.

If you make a mistake, you admit to it. If you hurt someone, you apologize and change your behavior.

This is because you understand that despite the limited control that we have over our lives, we do carry a lot of responsibility for how we react to what happens to us.

You may not always be able to choose your circumstances, but you can always choose your approach.

You may not be able to influence other peoples actions, but you can always remain in charge of your own actions, as well as your thoughts.

Since most of our life isnt within our control for example, you didnt choose the body you were born in, nor the country, nor the socio-economic situation, nor the fact that your boss is annoying and that its raining today its actually very common for people to try to grasp for any control they can get their hands on.

They obsess over minuscule things. They plan too far into the future. They let anxiety swallow them whole. They keep trying to butt their noses into other peoples business.

Little do they know that true power isnt about having as much control as possible its about the art of letting go. Of letting be. Of stepping back.

If a friend doesnt reciprocate the time and energy you invest in the relationship, you let them go no matter how much it hurts.

If your new job doesnt seem to be the right fit for you, you find a different position even if it means changing your priorities and rethinking your goals.

No, you dont always get it right. But thats okay. You dont have to be perfect to be mentally strong you just have to keep trying.

Do you know what true resilience is?

Its not facing challenges without a scratch. Its getting a dozen scratches, feeling the pain, and as they form into scars, your newfound skills make it easier for you to only get half a dozen the next time.

Its okay to be scared. Its okay to struggle. But if youre mentally strong, it means you incorporate all those struggles into who you are and grow stronger as a result.

It means you learn your lesson. And it means you emerge stronger and wiser, proud of how far youve come.

On a similar note, we usually think of mentally strong people as those who dont crumble under the weight of obstacles. Those who never cry. Those who always remain optimistic, no matter what.

But we rarely see those people in the comfort of their own bedrooms, right? We rarely see them weep into their pillow, stare at the ceiling late into the night as they doubt their decisions, and try to calm their nerves as anxiety storms through them.

The truth is, the strongest people I know arent the coldest ones. Theyre the ones who are in touch with their feelings. The ones who arent afraid to cry, laugh, or admit that theyre nervous.

Theyre the ones who dont shy away from their vulnerability. Instead, they embrace it.

We all doubt ourselves from time to time.

What if my partner doesnt love me anymore?

What if Im not talented enough?

What if I lose everything Ive worked so hard for?

However, what defines mental strength isnt the fact that you doubt yourself. Its how much power you let those doubts have over you.

At the end of the day, thoughts are just that: thoughts. You only give them power if you focus on them and magnify them, turning them into an issue.

But if you accept that your thoughts are just there, rolling through you in the same way clouds roll through the sky, you wont be as likely to yield to doubts and fears.

Life is essentially meaningless.

We dont know why were here. We dont know if we have some inner purpose or if our whole existence is just a lucky coincidence.

But while youre here, you might just as well create your own meaning.

This is the core principle of optimistic nihilism, and its also what many resilient people have in common while they accept the fact the universe may be meaningless, they dont give up on meaning altogether.

No, they go out into the world and forge their own path.

The fact that you go after your dreams, that you are keen to learn more about the world and yourself, and that you dont give up on yourself even if things get hard

It means youre creating meaning. It means youre stronger than you think.

Its not easy to remain disciplined, and even though you often falter, you push yourself when it truly matters.

However, theres more to pushing ones limits than you might think.

If you just push and push, youll soon burn out, stretching yourself way too far way too soon.

This is why mentally strong people approach self-improvement with care. They dont hurl themselves into ten new habits overnight.

No, they take it step by step. They push, but they also know when to loosen up a little, when to take a break, and when to have some self-compassion.

Discipline mixed with self-love is where true strength is born.

Ive had to learn this the hard way.

For most of my life, I relied on external validation so much that I felt like I had to earn other peoples love and admiration through competitions, good grades, and professional success.

But during lockdown, there was none of that to keep me going. For the first time ever, I had to look myself in the eye and find my self-worth from within. I had to accept that I was worthy of love even if there were no As to strive for, no rewards to win, and no people to impress.

And when the lockdown was over, I was stronger than ever before.

You dont have to take on a large challenge, win a shiny medal, or do something impressive to be strong.

The fact that you can accept yourself as you are now thats what makes you strong.

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