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Speaking to TshisaLIVE previously, Mpumelelo's father, the popular polygamist and businessman Musa, who has four wives, said he was happy his son had decided on his own to pursue polygamy.

Mpumelelo has to first answer to himself as a person, whether what he's doing is exactly what he wants or it's what he's seeing me doing. He has to be truthful to himself to say, 'Am I ready to go through this journey with these women', because if that's not the case, he will fail, even while I'm around, because he has to love it, live it and own it.

I have an obligation as his father to say, 'My son, I'm not excited by the fact that you're following in my footsteps, but what will excite me is that you, as a grown-up man, take a decision, you own the decision, to live this kind of a lifestyle ... because you will then extend the vision,' he said.

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Kenya National Union of Teachers (KNUT) secretary general Collins Oyuu has amused netizens with his unusual marital advice to men.

Oyuu encouraged men interested in polygamous marriages to consider marrying three women for his union to be happy.

According to Nairobi News, the unionist who was speaking at a funeral in Homa Bay argued that the traditional polygamous structure of two wives can sometimes cause chaos and instability at home.

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He cited the possibility of two wives colluding and conspiring against their husband, leaving him exposed.

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The unionist based his odd advice on the composition of the Court of Appeal and the Supreme Court in deciding cases.

Chairman of the Luo Council of Elders Nyandiko Ongadi noted that having three wives ensures peace exists at the homestead.

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On Thursday, January 12, TUKO.co.ke reported that Citizen TV journalist Stephen Letoo encouraged women to embrace polygamy.

He noted that when women embrace their co-wives, it will help reduce jealousy issues that have seen many people kill their spouses and walk out on marriages.

In an interview on Citizen Digital, Letoo said just because he believes in polygamy does not necessarily mean that he is practising it.

He said that he only wants the wife he marries to be aware so that should he decide to bring in a second wife, she should not have issues with him.

Letoo admitted coming from a humble polygamous family and explained that in most of those types of family arrangements, even when the parents were fighting, the kids were always sticking together.

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CHRISTINE Brown has given her followers a glimpse of her toned torso in a new video.

The Sister Wives star recorded a chatty clip on her Instagram Stories yesterday.

In the video, Christine sat in her car completely makeup-free, with a floral headband pulling her long wavy hair back from her face.

She wore a light pink ribbed top, with the plunging v-shape showing off her slim neck and toned dcolletage.

The TLC star chatted away happily, saying: "Car confessions! So recently I went to visit my sister Wendy in New Jersey, and they're like obsessed with grapefruits there.

"I told her I really don't like grapefruits, they're just not worth the time it takes to cut them and all of that, basically they're just nasty. And she was like, 'you just haven't had a good grapefruit yet.'"

"So anyway, she mailed me some grapefruits! Check it out," she exclaimed, as she held a box of fruits to the camera.

The50-year-oldhilariously added while giggling: "But I don't even know how to tell if they're ripe, so I'm gonna have to call her, check every single one over the phone. I don't know!"

On April 13, Christine shared the exciting news thatshe was engaged to her boyfriend,David Woolley, after announcing hersplit from ex-husband Kodyin November 2021.

The announcement came just days after The U.S. Sun reported that the reality star was"ready to marry."

However, not everyone is pleased withthe speed of the couple's relationship.

Earlier this month, Christine's sonPaedonshared onTikTok: "Last night [I told Christine]: Hey Mom, youre going fast. Im not telling you to slow down.

"I just want you to be aware that youre rushing this... very, very quickly."

Reportedly, Kody Brown's exesChristineandJanelle Brown, 53,have been secretly working on a new show idea.

The U.S. Sun previously reported that the pair were "gearing towards their own show."

However, the duo'sstrained relationshipdue to Christine's new romance could postpone those plans.

A source also told The U.S. Sun: "Christinehas abandoned the whole Sister Wives covenant. She's working on trying to get her own show."

"It could be either heavily focused on her cooking, or her life after polygamy."

In February 2022, Christine started her owndigital cooking show, Cooking with Just Christine.

But it appears she hasn't uploaded new cooking videos in months after Season 2 premiered in September.

The insider continued: "David, for sure, would be featured on her spinoff, and her children - 100 percent Mykelti."

Christinesharessix children with exKody: Aspyn, 27; Mykelti, 26; Paedon, 24; Gwendlyn, 21; Ysabel, 20; and Truely, 13.

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Two people getting married and staying reserved till death do them apart has been a classic tale.

But not for everyone.

A polyamorous Brazilian man reportedly guy built a 20-foot bed for his six wives for Rs 80 lakh.

The bedroom essential was put together by the man named Arthur O Urso over the course of 15 months with the assistance of 12 people and 950 screws. Arthur once had nine wives, four of whom divorced him, reported News18.

The So Paulo resident and his swinger wife Luana decided to open up their six-marriage setup in 2021.

The six wives are identified as Valquria Santos, Damiana, Amandha Albuquerque, Olinda Maria, Luana Kazaki, and Emelly Souza.

Although it is not enforceable under law because polygamy is prohibited in his nation, Arthur and Liana formally established their connection with additional women at a Catholic church.

The seven members of the group even have an OnlyFans page where they provide sex advice and publish videos and images of their intimate antics. From the platform, they make roughly Rs 50 lakh each month.

The man, who had previously made headlines for having difficulty appeasing each of his women, made a schedule in order to provide equal enjoyment to all of them.

So, what is a polyamorous relationship really? Is it ethical? Lets take a look.

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Understanding polyamorous relationship

According to WebMD, polyamorous people have multiple loving, intentional, and intimate relationships at the same time.

It is a type of open or non-monogamous relationship that follows certain guidelines.

It excludes all forms of open relationships, including those with more casual sexual partners.

Each partner in many polyamorous relationships is aware of the others.

Relationships or friendships between partners are also possible.

Some people find such relationships more comfortable than monogamous relationships.

Two years ago, Jada Pinkett Smith and Will Smiths daughter Willow Smith opened up about polyamory on Red Table Talk.

She said, With polyamory, I think the main foundation is the freedom to be able to create a relationship style that works for you and not just stepping into monogamy because thats what everyone around you says is the right thing to do. I was like, how can I structure the way that I approach relationships with that in mind?

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Its complex

Each polyamorous relationship is unique and complex.

USA Today quoted Washington University Professor of law Adrienne Davis as saying that such relationships in the United States dates back to 19th century when Free Love and transcendentalist movements were at peak.

According to Davis, it only grew popular in 1960s and early 1970s with the counterculture and sexual liberation movements.

In contrast to monogamous partnerships, people in polyamorous relationships create their own rules and preferred boundaries for their interactions.

The commitment to safer sex is among the most significant agreements shared by polyamorous individuals.

This usually refers to a restriction about who they will engage in unprotected sex with as well as methods of birth control for those who are capable of becoming pregnant.

In polyamorous partnerships, this is crucial to preventing the spread of STDs or unintended pregnancy.

Terms to know

Solo polyamory: Individuals who date several people but do not have primary partnerships. In their personal lives, they continue to be largely independent, according to WebMD.

Polyfidelity: A group of three or more persons who are dedicated to one another and do not date outside the group.

Hierarchical polyamory: It refers to people withprimary relationships to which they give the most time and attention, while secondary and tertiary relationships receive less of both. The primary partner could have more influence over crucial choices.

Non-hierarchical polyamory: It describes those who dont have a partner hierarchy. Alternative names for it include relationshipanarchy and egalitarian polyamory. In this kind of relationship, equal time and attention may be given to each partner and they might also have an equal say in crucial decisions.

Compersion: A sensation of joy that results from seeing your lover happy with another person, as opposed to envy, according to Instyle magazine.

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Common myths

1. Its cheating on a partner

No, people in polyamorous relationships are open and honest with each other about their other partners, since it depends on honesty, integrity, and communication, says WebMD.

2. Afraid of commitment

Though it looks different since traditional relationships such as marriage can be difficult, polyamorous relationships are still committed relations.

3. No true intimacy

Many believe having multiple partners detracts from intimacy.

However, polyamorous people create more intimacy with multiple people due to vulnerability and communication, explains the website.

4. Wild sex life

Yes, they do, but the primary focus is building loving, intimate relationships.

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Solicitor General Tushar Mehta today told the Supreme Court that arguments of right to choice and sexual orientation raised by the petitioners seeking legal recognition for marriages between non-binary, non-heterosexual, or transgender persons may tomorrow be raised to defend incestous relationships.

"Visualise a situation, when a person is attracted to those persons who are mentioned in prohibited relationships. Incest not uncommon in the world and world over it is prohibited...Suppose a person is attracted to his sister, can they say we are consenting adults, we're entering into activities privately and we claim our right of autonomy, choice. Based on that very argument can someone not challenge this definition (of prohibited degrees)? Why this restriction? Who are you to decide with whom?" SG submitted.

"That will be far-fetched," Chief Justice of India DY Chandrachud promptly remarked.

"We used to treat even thi as far-fetched," the SG responded.

CJI then said, "Sexual orientation or your autonomy as an individual can never be exercised in all aspects of marriage including the entry into marriage, the prohibited relationships, the grounds on which marriage can be dissolved...these are all subject to regulation by law. So these are very far fetched for anybody to even argue before us that orientation is so absolute that I can therefore commit an act of incest. No court will ever countenance this."

Today is 6th day of hearing before the Constitution Bench comprising Chief Justice DY Chandrachud, and Justices Sanjay Kishan Kaul, S Ravindra Bhat, Hima Kohli, and PS Narasimha. Follow live updates here.

SG argued that people can also challenge polygamy on such grounds. "People may say my choice is polygamy...arguments the way they are read for marriage...can be made, whether accepted or not is one thing, for challenging incest and prohibited degrees," he argued.

At this juncture, Justice Bhat emphasized,

"But these are universal rules. As long as these were not codified, they were accepted. That was the law, the norm. If you're building up to this and saying there is a state interest in this relationship, one can understand. There are certain interests of the state which are legitimate."

SG Mehta then submitted that State can regulate certain relationships if the State feels that it is in legitimate interest to do so. "Therefore, marriage was not a regulated relationship. But state in its legislative policy wisdom decided that we will regulate and we can regulate only when we recognise...When your lordships were hearing Navtej, all these arguments were made. The central government said we leave it to the wisdom of the court so far as decriminalisation of Section 377 IPC is concerned but added that this has nothing to do with future right of marriage, inheritance, etc."

SG then moved on to contend that if such marriages were to be permitted, as many as 160 provisions would be affected, leading to irreconcilable differences in the statutory framework of the country.

"See the definition of full blood and half blood (in relation to "degrees of prohibited relationship" in Special Marriage Act)...we can never reconcile this provision - it says that one man has given birth to a child with a biological woman. Marriage between lesbians- that can't be read because it wouldn't be full blood...Merely changing man and woman into person will make many provisions irreconcilable and this full blood will have inevitable impact of succession," SG Mehta argued.

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Case Title: Supriyo v. Union of India | Writ Petition (Civil) No. 1011 of 2022

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Years ago, I asked my mother why she had nine kids, and she responded that her mother and mother-in-law kept telling her that it is the only way to avoid polygamy; some children and all husbands are disobedient. Twenty years later, my Pakistani Canadian friend, Saima, when she consulted me on the idea of freezing her eggs, argued that she could not afford to have a baby and pursue her education and career.

Her income is insufficient to cover the expenses of a baby in Montreal or New York, and support is not made available either by her husband or through affordable babysitting and kindergarten services. Both Saima and my mother, with a two-decade gap between them, were pushed to take their reproductive decision by economic and societal social norm factors far from national or global population growth trends. We live in an almost polarised demographic world; population anxiety is at both poles of increasing and decreasing population. The common feature is that both are focused on the outcome (population size and fertility levels) away from the root causes and the dynamics through which reproductive decisions are made.

In the past, families wanted to have more children because of child mortality and the need for a workforce, and to have more fighters in a world made of a tribal system that linked all good values, such as courage, strength, decisiveness, etc, to men and the risks of failing, such as keeping honour and avoiding stigma and shame, to women. Therefore, we inherited from them the preference for boys over girls. Governments with high population growth rates, including Pakistan, got anxious because of their inability to create enough jobs and provide decent education and health services to all and the security threats they might face with increasingly growing unemployed youth.

Therefore, they direct their thinking around reducing fertility. While governments with declining populations got anxious about the future of the nation. For example, during an informal chat, an ambassador from an Eastern European country hinted at a sort of blame on UNFPA for advocating an increased dose of womens rights to the extent that some women have lost direction and forgotten their reproductive duty to produce more babies for the nations existence.

Historically, governments failed to understand or accept the fact that peoples reproductive decisions do not factor in the opinion of politicians, academics and experts regarding population growth they have their own reasons for having more or fewer children. UNFPA launched the annual report on the State of World Population last week, identifying rising population anxiety and urging a radical rethink of how countries address changing demographics.

The report notices that increasing population anxieties are widespread, and governments are increasingly adopting policies aimed at raising, lowering or maintaining fertility rates. But efforts to influence fertility rates are very often ineffective and can erode womens rights. The landmark report called for a radical rethink of how population numbers are framed, urging politicians and media to abandon overblown narratives about population booms and busts.

Instead of asking how fast people are reproducing, leaders should ask whether individuals, especially women, are able to freely make their own reproductive choices a question whose answer, too often, is no. Womens bodies should not be held captive to population targets, says UNFPA Executive Director Dr Natalia Kanem, adding, To build thriving and inclusive societies, regardless of population size, we must radically rethink how we talk about and plan for population change. Family planning must not be used as a tool for achieving fertility targets; it is a tool for empowering individuals. Women and couples should be able to choose if, when and how many children they would like to have, free from the coercion of pundits and officials.

Governments must first realise that deciding to have children is an individual and couples decision, not a community or a public affair. Governments must realise that any attempt to intervene in this matter will face push-back from society for religious, cultural, liberal, political and many other reasons, and the outcome will be a distortion of the demography of society that leaves negative socioeconomic multiplier effects. The proper approach is the human rights that promote the fact that getting babies is an individual decision.

Branding such decisions as good or bad is a bad idea; people should freely decide if they want to get babies and choose how many. Nevertheless, it is important to understand the dynamics in which families take decisions, and governments should do their best to ensure the right people make their own reproductive choices; women should not be pushed to get pregnant and not be forced to become infertile; they should take their decisions in the context of an approach of bodily integrity and autonomy.

Governments also need to ensure that whatever the decision is, families are provided with all proper services, information and understanding to implement their own reproductive decision. Women are not accountable for the nations problems; they are victims of social norms. Nobody should hold women accountable for population decline or increase. This matter is an outcome of the societal values shaped over years by the men-led States organs, including media, supporting programmes, and the enabling environment to decide. In countries facing population decline like Singapore, Japan, Poland, Germany, etc, we observe the difficulties that women face to have babies without compromising their human capital gains as professionals and human beings whose lives are in accumulated development and progress.

In those societies, babies can come once women feel that they do not have to choose to get pregnant or continue their progress in life; when they realise that having another baby will not distort their future and spoil their economic aspirations due to costly childcare, babysitting, education, recreation and getting a healthy child whose mother can continue her own progress. Making the best services, advocacy and information in which women and couples can make informed decisions is the most appropriate approach to address population anxiety. All other alternative attempts proved not to work very well. In a nutshell, enjoying reproductive rights is the key.

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Indore (Madhya Pradesh): Amid the ongoing hearing by the Supreme Court over the legality of same-sex marriage, that has sparked a nationwide debate,youths of Indore have supported the rights of gay/lesbian and said that non-heterosexual marriages should get legal acceptance.

A relationship can never be forced, nor can someone force themselves to like a certain gender. If a person wants to spend hisher life with a certain individual then they should be allowed to do so. In the end, what matters is that people should be happy,

Saumya Jatav, university student.

In the past people have fought for basic rights and freedom. Non-heterosexual marriage is a part of gender fluidity and hence it is the right of an individual to be able to choose their partner for life. However, society needs time to accept the changes and become comfortable with it.

Sonam Jatav, tutor

Gender equality is a part of diversity. Instead of looking at it as a problem, people should consider it as a solution. While there have been many protests in the country regarding the support of LGBTQ, one must understand that equality is beyond caste, creed, gender, or money. Same-sex marriages are and should be considered as legal practice.

- Kashish Saxena, university student

People are opposing same-sex marriages on the ground that it is a new concept. However, if someone goes through history one will find that our culture has been very supportive of accepting marriages. Earlier, polygamy was normal, but now it is not

- Chitra Gandhe, university student

There should be no problem in accepting same-sex marriages, but it is the society that is unwilling to accept it. The concept of degrading and discriminating against individuals has been brought up by the British. It is surprising that at a time when gender fluidity is being demanded, people are shying away from supporting this openly.

- Manasvi Jain, university student

The Indian culture has always been supportive of gender equality, and this demand is also about equality. Indian culture is so strong that it cannot be affected by this development. Our culture has been evolving for ages and has encountered ample changes. Hence, the claim that this type of marriage will harm our traditions seems to be unjustified.

- Harish Gidwani, university professor.

Same-sex marriage is neither socially nor medically acceptable. It should not be promoted as it can also lead to various diseases. It is also considered a perverse disorder. It should not get the legal acceptance.

- Dr Ashok Dagaria, senior psychiatrist

As a democratic country every citizen here must have the freedom to be treated equally. After the Supreme Court verdict of September 6, the community got hope. Policy change is needed to give them social acceptability and ensure equality for such people in all spheres of life. Procreation is not the sole objective that binds people in the bond of marriage and therefore should not be seen as deterrence for allowing homosexual couples their rights.

Medha Shukla, resident

I dont want same sexmarriage at my home

Senior advocate and Rajya Sabha MP VivekTankha said that he did not consider people who are into same-sex marriages as criminal. I dont see them as criminals but frankly I dont want them at my home, he said while addressing a press meet on April 23.

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Okay, the idea of polygamy might sound absurd in these modern times, but the truth is, the practice has been around since the beginning of time.

If what comes to mind when you hear polygamy is a marital arrangement of one guy with more than one wife, you are not wrong. That's because it's the most common type of polygamy around.

However, there are also polyandry and group marriages. The former is when a woman marries more than one guy, while the latter is a marital arrangement, where four or more adults are sexually and romantically involved with each other.

Believe it or not, polygamy has its advantages, just as there are tons of disadvantages. What's more, people are still engaging it now as it's still common in many parts of the world.

So, if you are wondering what polygamy feels like, perhaps you are considering the idea of being the new wife to an already married man, or your husband is making new marriage plans with another woman. You might want to know what's in store in terms of the pros and cons of polygamy.

Yes, if you are from the United States or some other civilized nations of the world, the idea of polygamy may sound strange to you, especially when you've never seen it before. However, it's the culture in many locations such as Africa and the Middle East. There are so many cultural practices that may seem weird elsewhere but are totally seen as a good thing where they are practiced.

In many of these locations, polygamy is not seen as victimization or abuse of the womenfolk. In fact, some women consider it as a good thing as they share the social status their husband has and may even encourage him to take more spouses. Just as many cultural practices, polygamy promotes and exhibits cultures of a location or area.

While the idea of a one-man/one-wife marriage makes better sense, it's not uncommon to find an adult woman without a guy. This situation is not because she chose the path of being single for life or became a widow, but its just that she has been unlucky. The fact is, some women never find their Prince Charming to put a ring on it."

So, instead of waiting for a single guy that may never come, settling to be a man's second or third wife might not be such a bad idea. Not only will such a woman be part of a "family, but" she'll also get the support she needs, especially when the guy is rich.

Yes, women can choose to get pregnant by any "John Doe" or approach a sperm bank if shes unlucky with finding a man to start a family with. However, these options aren't easy for women in many locations of the world like Africa. Apart from the backlash from parents, the societal stigma is another bummer.

The practice of polygamy naturally leads to a larger family compared to monogamous relationships. While a woman can have up to five or even six children, the possibility of having a larger family is even higher with more women in polygamy. A big family has its advantages. Your children will get to grow up in an environment with a greater connection with more children.

In monogamous relationships, an only child may only get to mingle with other kids and learn social skills when they get to school or other external playgroups. With the viral pandemic, keeping safe at home with a large family doesn't sound so bad.

Whether it's a one-man/multiple women relationship, polyandry, or group marriage, one of the benefits of polygamy (when looking at the pros and cons of the practice), is the low risk of getting bored. Research shows that one of the reasons for cheating in marriages is boredom. Most people search for more excitement outside their marriage since adultery isn't a legal or an open option.

So, with the multiple options available in polygamy, the chances of getting bored are lower. Trust me, the idea of not getting bored is not only for the guy, who technically has the option of having sex with multiple women.

As a woman/wife in a polygamy arrangement, you can interact with co-wives, their children, and so on. The bottom line is, maintaining the marriage no longer rests on two persons only since there are more people in the polygamy marriage setting. More could be the merrier, right?

Looking through these pros and cons, you'll undoubtedly find many undesirable cons, but you can't ignore this upside as a woman. You'd probably agree that men are guilty when it comes to leaving most of the house chores to their wives.

Even in this modern age, where gender inequality is being frowned upon, many domestic chores are still classified as feminine things. Being in a polygamous marriage can help ease the pressure of doing all the chores alone.

In a setting where there's an equal contribution of effort, the wives can alternate handling the house chores. It can become so convenient that one wife can rest from all chores in a particular week and resume subsequent weeks.

Sex keeps relationships together. In fact, many couples in therapy revealed that sex was the only glue that held their marriage for many years when there was no longer time to engage in other things that strengthen relationships. Therefore, it's not uncommon for arguments to erupt when a man isn't getting enough intimate time with his wife.

Sometimes, this situation may even push the partner away into the web of infidelity if it gets too much. However, there will probably be less argument in polygamy when a wife says no to her husband's sexual move because she's tired or not in the mood. After all, there's another wife under the same roof to satisfy his urges.

Now, I'm not trying to use this point to justify adultery or promote polygamy, but let's face it, the alarming rate of divorce proves that the soulmate ideology is laughable. It shows that marriages that work only do so because of a conscious effort to stay together from both parties.

Naturally, humans are a variety-loving species, which makes cheating on our spouses an easy option as continuous monotony is a problem for us. With polygamy, there's technically an acceptance of human nature by the parties involved, which may slightly reduce jealousy and the need for divorce.

As a woman, you naturally have a limited number of children you can give birth to in one lifetime. On the other hand, a guy can father as many children as possible as long as there's a willing female. With monogamy, a man with an excellent gene, for example, a genius gene, may never pass that gene to his progeny since the number of children in monogamous settings is usually few.

Even if he can, only a few children will likely get the genes since a monogamous family setting usually has few children. However, having multiple wives will increase the chances of many children, which will also increase the possibility of passing special genes to many progenies.

People marry for companionship, start a family, financial support, pressure from parents, etc. In Africa, many men who willfully engage in polygamy are usually financially stable. For a woman who cares more about taking care of her needs above other factors, a polygamy arrangement can be beneficial if the guy is wealthy.

Again, in Africa, many women with children from a previous marriage or relationship often consider polygamy as it does not only offer them financial support, but it also gives them a sense of being part of a family instead of being alone as getting married can be a little challenging with extra "baggage."

Furthermore, even if the husband isn't extremely wealthy, just as two is better than one, three or more financially stable people in a marriage setting will undoubtedly translate to financial security for the entire family.

If you are looking at polygamy's pros and cons from the angle of a guy enjoying multiple sex partners only, you'll be blinded to this advantage. Naturally, there are more women in the world than women than men.

What's more, there are places where the number of marriage-eligible women is significantly higher than their male counterparts. In such scenarios, polygamy can be a lifesaver. The men enjoy having multiple options, and the wives enjoy financial support and a family relationship that comes from being married.

Believe it or not, polygamy symbolizes the alpha male status in many ancient cultures. It's common among ancient kings and royal officials, but non-royal, rich men also emulate this practice. Like I said earlier, having many spouses is technically a symbol of being rich as such a man must have attained a level of financial stability.

These men may or may not be billionaires but are usually what you could call "capable." This may not be the case every time as some men only find themselves in polygamy due to being serial adulterers.

What's interesting is that the wives of such alpha males are also placed on the same pedestal society places their husbands, so both husbands and wives sometimes enjoy the praise that comes from polygamy.

While this point may not be true at all times, there are chances a guy free to have many spouses will have no reason to sneak around outside relationships. Apart from serial cheats and highly undisciplined men, a guy that has multiple wives or spouses technically has more excitement going on under one roof.

If he wants more, he'll just marry more wives without technically hurting anyone's feelings since the wives know the type of relationship they signed up for. The bottom line is, men sneak around because they are not permitted to have multiple wives. In polygamy, they don't have to.

The wives in a polygamy setting are almost always in competition, which can be a good thing as long as it's healthy. Apart from competing for their husbands attention, no wife will want to be seen as useless, ugly, fat, lazy, or nonchalant.

So, polygamy can sometimes cause the wives to be the best version of themselves. Even if a woman is working hard and being the best she can be for her husband, she may end up helping herself in a way.

If a woman doesn't want children at all and doesn't want to force her decision on her spouse, the pros and cons of polygamy can present a win-win situation to the marriage. Instead of divorcing each other, the guy can have another spouse who wants children.

Bear in mind that not all polygamy arrangement translates to the spouses living under one roof with the guy. In some cases, the guy acquires or rents multiple houses for his spouses, where he can visit and spend time with them separately.

While polygamy has many pros and cons, the cons can come in handy for a woman who suddenly takes up the decision to be celibate. Celibacy doesn't necessarily have to mean being alone, miserable, and without any male companion.

With effective communication, agreement, and zero jealousy, a man and woman can remain married while the celibate partner allows her husband to take another wife he can be sexually active with. As mentioned earlier, the new spouse can be at another location or under one roof as it is practiced in many African countries.

Polygamy undoubtedly has many pros, but the cons aren't pretty. One of the first cons we'll be looking at in this article is that the practice of a guy having more than one partner contravenes the right of women to be equal with their male counterparts in families.

Research from the United Nations shows that women in such marriages/families are prone to serious emotional abuse. Furthermore, it could mean negative financial consequences for her and her children, especially in cases of separation. The United Nations recommends that the union be completely prohibited or discouraged.

In places where polygamy is technically legal or allowed, there are usually no laws that accommodate the splitting of properties when divorce scenarios come up.

Since the guy has other spouses, the idea of splitting half of what he owns with one of the spouses that wish to leave cannot even be on the table. This condition will translate to a serious financial disadvantage for the woman and her kids. In fact, the spouse who chooses to leave may end up with almost nothing.

There's no subtle way to put it in this pros and cons article; most women in polygamous relationships or families are only doing a great job hiding how they truly feel. We humans might be a variety-loving species, but that doesn't change the fact that we are territorial.

No lady loves the idea of another female coming to invade her space or share her lover. Polygamy promotes jealousy within families. Besides, you don't need me to tell you how jealous can escalate into a much sinister feeling that could lead to hurting someone or even murder.

Research shows that humans are polygamous in nature, and that includes men and women. Religious doctrines, modern laws over the years contributed to the shift from polygamy to monogamy. But make no mistake, humans are still driven with the desire to enjoy multiple partners even outside their marriage.

Therefore, a case of one or more spouses engaging in sex outside a polygamy arrangement can infect everyone in the marriage with STDs. Not that this scenario can't happen in monogamy. The chances are relatively higher in polygamy since more people that can engage in indiscriminate sex are present.

If you consider going into a polygamy arrangement, you might want to get ready for many lonely nights. I mean, he's literally not yours only, so there'll be times where you'll need him, but you can't have him because he's with his other wife. It gets worse if you all live under one roof. I mean, what could be more heartbreaking than wanting to be intimate with "your partner," but you can't.

Not because he's sick or tired but because he's with someone else. The sad part is, it's not going to be a one-time scenario, especially when the other wife or wives are better than you sexually. Your husband may naturally want to be with the wife that excites him more even if there's a structured sex arrangement, like a timetable. Guess what, you can't complain since you signed up for it.

Polygamy undoubtedly favors men over women in many areas. As a woman, you need to know that it's a win-win situation for a man that has many wives at his disposal. Because there will be competition among the wives to please him, he probably won't care that much if any of his wives threaten to leave or throw tantrums for attention.

It still doesn't get better at all for ladies in polygamy. Well, that's the essence of a pros and cons article, to expose the good and ugly side. If you are the type that wants a man that'll go out of his way to please you, then think again. Being many may cause the man to have little or no reason to compromise.

The fact that you are not the only wife may naturally make him less sensitive since his other wives aren't throwing so many tantrums. Guess what? If you want to leave, he has a "backup."

In many regions where polygamy is practiced, men with multiple wives often deny their wives equal rights. In many cases, the women are not in the position to work, school, or improve themselves as their improvement may make them feel they no longer need someone.

Furthermore, their role is often limited to the kitchen, handling house chores, and birthing children. This is not only a problem for the wives, but the idea may also be naturally passed to the children raised in such families.

In Arab counties, polygamy is allowed on the condition that the man can treat and love his wives equally. Let's face it; chances are, a guy will have a favorite among his spouses, perhaps because she cooks well, pleases him more, hardly says no to sex, etc.

If this scenario exists, the least favorite wife may receive poor treatment or less attention. Altogether, these can promote jealousy among wives and even children, thereby creating enemies and unnecessary commotion in families.

Domestic tension and fights are common in all marriages. However, one of the cons of polygamy is that there'll be more tension. Fight between a man and his wife is almost inevitable in monogamy. Now, a setting with more than one wife, and perhaps, many children will naturally be prone to more arguments or discords.

The presence of a rival alone is enough reason for a fight. Now add cases of manipulation to get the guy's attention and other misunderstandings, then what you'll have is a recipe for regular "royal rumble."

Yes, the idea of large families can be beneficial to kids in certain ways; however, it can also be confusing. If you are looking at the pros and cons of polygamy for yourself or a friend, remember kids are fragile, and polygamy isn't as common as monogamy anymore.

Your kids might have a hard time understanding why his or her family is different from other families. It's best to avoid confusing kids as you don't know what outcomes it could lead to in the future. For example, your kids friends could bully them, make fun of them, which may affect them negatively.

Another con of polygamy is the high maintenance cost. Keeping more than one wife and having more than one child will naturally increase such a home's budget. To make matters worse, if a man is running a polygamy arrangement where the wives are living separately in order to avoid frequent domestic flights, that adds more to the overall domestic expense.

What's more, when there are scenarios of financial challenges, the polygamy-established home may be relatively harder to manage since there's more financial obligation.

The cons of polygamy go beyond when the marriage is still alive. In the event that the husband dies, the legal battle is always messy and long. There are some polygamy settings where the first wife married the husband legally. However, cultural or religious traditions made him bring in subsequent wives in a non-formal or non-legal way.

In such a scenario, the legally married wife usually wants to claim the lion's share for her and her children while the other wives will want an equal split. Altogether, it's an easy situation to avoid by not going into polygamy in the first place.

People go into polygamous marriages for different reasons: pressure from parents to get married, forced/arranged marriages, desperation to leave spinsterhood, etc. At first, it may seem fine. But as I mentioned earlier, we are jealous and territorial creatures and will, at the end of the day, prefer being with someone we can call our own.

When this reality sets in, it can make someone feel miserable, unhappy, and depressed, which may affect one's mental health. What's more, women will naturally feel powerless in a relationship where nearly all the cards are stacked against them. This may further lead to mental health breakdown.

By nature, polygamy encourages gender inequality, which often leads to trampling upon the rights of the women in the marriage. Furthermore, because cheating is common to both men and women, the presence of one or more members engaging in sex outside the arrangement can lead to infecting everyone.

The pros and cons of polygamy are numerous. While the pros can make it initially attractive for men and women alike, the disadvantages and the nature of humans will likely make it unsustainable. Jealousy is almost unavoidable, which can lead to a more sinister desire that could lead to dangerous consequences.

Polygamy can save a mature lady endless waiting for a man that'll take her to the altar. It can even offer financial security, especially when the man is rich. However, the cons make monogamy better. While many monogamous relationships can end in divorce due to infidelity or, it offers a platform of equality, fairness and has legal protection for involved parties under the law of virtually all countries.

Many African nations, such as Ghana, Cameroon, Senegal, etc., permit polygamy. While the practice may not be legal according to the African countries' official marriage laws, since bigamy is totally punishable, polygamy is also not frowned upon. It's a cultural/ traditional practice that is widely accepted. Also, India and most nations governed by Islamic laws are also polygamy-friendly.

Going through the pros and cons, the benefits are undeniable. They include saving a female who's desperate to marry the unnecessary waiting for "her man." Furthermore, polygamy helps in the expansion of man's gene pool, the reduction of boredom, and offers the excitement that comes with being sexually active with multiple women yet, technically, not hurt their feelings.

Polygamy clearly has its pros and cons. While both men and women can enjoy some benefits in a polygamy marriage, the one-man-multiple wives type marriage favors men more. It promotes gender equality and may psychologically affect women in those marriages in the long run. It might be best not to go into it since you can go the monogamous way.

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