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By Daniel OgettaBy ANITA CHEPKOECH

About a month ago, the House of Grace Bishop David Muriithi was disgraced for breaking the seventh commandment in the bible: Do not commit adultery.

The man of the cloth broke the laws of Moses and had to face the laws of the land when his ex-lover or baby mama moved to court to compel him to pay child support for a baby he sired out of wedlock.

The bishop did not deny having a relationship but claimed he didnt know there was a baby as a result.

He committed to paying KSh10,000 monthly, but first called for a paternity test to ascertain if the baby is indeed his.

As much as I am a Bishop in the church that I head, it is not true that I live a high-end life. That is the figment of the applicants imagination, pleaded the father of five, noting that the lover may have conceived in order to get a slice of the high-end life.

The Bishop is the latest to be caught up in the endless list of men facing baby mama issues that have now become the second face of the coin that is marriage.

Baby mama was mostly a Western concept associated with African-Americans.

The term derived from baby mother, is a slang for a woman who is not married to her childs father. It originated from Jamaican Creole in the 1960s.

Its equivalent for the opposite gender is baby daddy (or baby father), although its not as popular as the former because it was mostly men who used to describe their estranged partners or mothers of their illegitimate children as baby mamas.

They definitely imply there is not a marriagenot even a common-law marriage, but rather that the child is an outside child, Prof Peter L. Patrick, a linguistics professor, who studied Jamaican Creole, said of the terms baby mama and baby daddy.

Today, its a full-blown sub-culture that has been coopted the world over.

In Africa, it has changed further the structure of the African family which had already been altered by the coming of the missionaries with Judeo-Christianity that diluted polygamy and entrenched monogamy.

As it would turn out, a number of African men did not entirely quit polygamy. They kept secret wives or baby mamas on the side.

Once frowned upon, it now appears to be glorified and perpetuated as an enviable lifestyle of our times, fueled by high flying celebrities, politicians and also ordinary people whose stories never get to be told because of their status.

Celebrity trend

From the Grammy award winning United States singer- Usher (Raymond Usher) of My Boo fame, Coming to America icon Eddy Murphy, to the popular Bongo Flava star Diamond Platnumz, the portrayal of the baby mama issues by personalities around the world seems to have changed this very concept from being an embarrassing vice to a trendy lifestyle.

Welcome to the world of daring baby mamas who sometimes show up full-throttle when their baby daddies die.

Other times they drag their men to the corridors of justice as was the case with Kiambu Senator Kimani Wamatangi.

His former domestic worker Winfred Wangui sued him three years ago for abandoning a 10-year-old daughter she claimed she bore for him.

According to the woman, the senator had only seen their child twice when she was two months old.

The same fate recently greeted Senate Speaker Kenneth Lusaka, although the childrens court barred the media from covering the child upkeep case.

Single mothers, also known as baby mamas, are more comfortable and tend to opt to raise their children on their own as a result of many factors such as disappointments and heartbreaks. PHOTO |FILE

Singer, Diamond Platnumzs three known baby-mamas are only paralleled to those of the raunchy Kevin Costner of The Dances with Wolves fame and Eddy Murphy who had about 10 children with five baby mamas by 2020.

Then there are those who leave children at their lovers workplaces like it happened to one Musa Mbuvi, an accountant in one of the high-end hotels in Nairobi.

In the court documents, Mbuvi accused his lover of taking her child to his workplace to cause him inconvenience and embarrassment, despite not being sure he was the father.

Sociologists say the trend is an indication of waning cultural norms.

Dr. Scholastic Adeli, a senior lecturer of counselling psychology at Moi University, attributes the rise of baby mamas to loosening of cultural norms, influx of civilisation that liberalises individual lifestyle choices and peer pressure.

The typical African society didnt have baby mamas because culture didnt allow it. With polygamy where wives allowed their husbands to marry other wives, the baby mamas werent applicable, Dr Adeli explains.

Before civilisation, women were culturally expected to stick to their marriage, however oppressive it turned out, unlike today when women can choose to be single mothers when the union turns sour, the senior lecturer says.

The trend is that you can have a child, source of income and live a happy life free of commitment and marital feuds.

Another issue is that women are getting married late, going by the standard marital age. Somebody reaches the age of 40, has no prospective suitors and has suffered disappointments here and there, and they think, I just need to get a baby and move on, says Dr Adeli.

Its now common for women to size up a man based on their brains, looks and celebrity or financial status, and target them to be what they call sperm donor.

Unlike in the olden days when pregnancies out of wedlock were mostly accidental owing to little knowledge or access to contraceptives, some of the modern-day ones are purely by choice.

Irresponsibility among the men is also a major contributor to why millions of children are no longer being raised in nuclear families; whether its infidelity, dead-beat fatherhood or casual attitudes with which the younger generation would treat marriage and relationships.

The rising number of teenagers being taken advantage of and put in the family way basically forms an even larger percentage of baby mamas raising their children in non-nuclear setups today.

Family therapists say a man may have as many women but fail to be close enough to any of them, because they may meet the financial aspects but fail to give emotional support or physical presence.

Women exist as an integrated circuit. The mind, body, and soul are closely linked so, hurt feelings affect the entire system. A wife whose spirit is crushed may suffer from fatigue and confusion, says writer and therapist Deborah Reno.

She says men are compartmentalised and are able to fully function when one area of their lives is not working properly, hence leaving emotional burden to the women, who on the contrary, the writer likens to a strand of Christmas lights, where when one light goes out, they all go dark.

Sylva Nze, a Nigerian author, in his thoughts on the baby mama syndrome, says the secrecy has ebbed away with time. He blames celebrities for normalising and popularising a vice.

With more of our celebrities who have huge social influencer credentials getting caught up in this syndrome and advertising it proudly, it is no surprise that suddenly being a baby mama or baby daddy as the case may be, has become a cool thing for many of our impressionable youngsters and teenagers, Mr Nze wrote.

Its a generation that dreads long-term emotional and spiritual commitment of matrimony more than they do jail.

They go by the mantra marriage is overrated.

With their love for social media, they unapologetically post their thoughts and beliefs about their unconventional relationships.

The baby mama syndrome is often characterised by child support court cases, dramatic funerals in the event of death of the man and cat fights with their lovers wives.

Sadly, children are often caught up in the crossfire.

According to Mr Robert Doyel, a retired judge in a family court in Florida, United States of America, the cases he handled portrayed a shocking entrenchment of the culture in his book, The Baby Mama Syndrome.

It reveals a world you didnt know existed, a world of unconventional relationships, unrestrained sexual activity, unwed pregnancies, and violence described graphically by the people involved, he surmised.

Over the years, he handled part or all of 15,000 to 20,000 restraining order (injunction for protection) cases as well as thousands of dependency, divorce, custody, and paternity cases.

He termed them as shocking, amusing but most of all concerning

Cases on child maintenance on the rise

At Milimani law courts alone, there were 3,317 maintenance and child support cases recorded in 2018 and 2019. And in 2021, there were 1022 cases by the close of July, an indicator of about 15 percent increase from the same period in 2019.

What the law says

In June last year, the High Court in Milimani made a landmark ruling on divorce directing that both parents should equally share the burden of bringing up their children.

Justice Abida Ali Aroni based her ruling on section 24 of the Children Act that: Where a childs father and mother were married to each other at the time of his birth, they shall have parental responsibility for the child and neither the father nor the mother of the child shall have a superior right or claim against the other in the exercise of such parental responsibility.

In the Act, parental responsibility means all the duties, rights, powers, responsibilities and authority which by law a parent of a child has in relation to the child and the childs property in a manner consistent with the evolving capacities of the child including adequate diet, shelter, clothing, medical care, education and guidance.

The judge was ruling on an appeal by a man challenging a Magistrate Courts decision which had overburdened him with a financial task that required him to take care of his three-year-old son sired with his former wife.

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Baby mama culture a threat to marriage institution? - The Citizen

A man is standing on the parapet of a bridge. He is about to jump. What should you do? Most people would agree that the moral act would be to talk to him to try to persuade him not to. Most people would also agree that giving him a push because thats what he wanted would be committing murder.

Your grandmother is dying. She is in great pain, has only a few days to live and wants you to end her life now. Its unlikely that most people could bring themselves to do that. But most would probably understand if you did accede to her wishes, however tormented you felt. And even more were a doctor to give her sufficient painkillers to allow her to die in peace.

The debate about assisted dying is one in which there are no simple answers; a debate in which we need to acknowledge that truth and moral decency lie on both sides and in which context is particularly important in judging what is right and wrong. On Friday, the House of Lords debated Baroness Meachers assisted dying bill, which would allow terminally ill adults assistance to end their life. Its unlikely to become law, but the debate will undoubtedly continue.

The Lords debate was respectful, often moving. Much of the wider discussion on the issue, however, is mired in bad faith assumptions: on the one side, the idea that opposition to assisted dying is driven primarily by religious obscurantism and on the other that supporters are tantamount to murderers and not to be trusted. Those are not good places from which to start a hugely significant yet highly sensitive public debate.

I am broadly in favour of decriminalising, in a limited fashion, acts of assisted dying but I also understand the force of the arguments from opponents and partly agree with them. This is a terrain to be carefully negotiated.

The first, critical argument is about the sanctity of life. This is more than a religious argument. Most of us, religious or irreligious, place special meaning on human life, recognising that we are not merely machines or slabs of meat, but persons, moral agents to whom we accord dignity and respect by virtue of being human.

Few, however, view the sanctity of life in absolute terms. Many who oppose assisted dying support the death penalty. Most would defend the taking of a life in self-defence or accept killing other humans in a war they think is just or necessary. Again, context matters.

The philosopher Ronald Dworkin observed that we value life through three lenses: subjectively (treasuring the inner life of the individual); intrinsically (insisting that a human life is valuable in and of itself); and instrumentally (gauging people through their usefulness for society and other individuals). Opponents of assisted dying rightly stress the intrinsic value of life and worry that in expanding the legal capacity to end life we may be drawn to viewing human worth in more instrumental ways. One of the ironies, though, is that in stressing the intrinsic, we may implicitly downgrade the subjective aspect of being human. We can end up giving priority to the state of being alive of breathing or being conscious over an individuals moral sense of what life means to them. Yet it is that capacity for subjective evaluation that truly makes us human.

A second key argument is that of the slippery slope the belief that one step towards any form of assisted dying would irrevocably lead to a world in which we accepted the culling of the old and the infirm.

There are few spheres of life in which slippery slope arguments have not been deployed. In the late 1960s, a Times leader warned that the new technique of IVF could lead to a race between nations, each breeding a race of intellectual giants. Any attempt to decriminalise marijuana becomes a downward path to smack being sold in the corner shop. And, for many, gay marriage is a slippery slope to polygamy and bestiality.

Its a metaphor whose power derives from imagining social developments as though they were natural and inevitable, just as a ball rolls down a slope under gravity. What shapes human laws and conduct, however, are not invisible natural forces but political debate. There is nothing inevitable about social change and taking one step does not mean a slide all the way to the bottom.

Many critics point to developments in the Netherlands as an example of a slippery slope. In 2002, assisted dying was legalised for people with incurable illnesses facing unbearable suffering. Over the past decade, there has been a debate over extending the law to all those over 75 who feel they have completed their life. This, indeed, would be a calamitous move. The problem, though, is not the mythical slippery slope, but that critics have not yet convinced proponents that their proposals are dangerous and wrong. This, as much as any other contentious issues, from Brexit to immigration, should be worked out through public debate, not fear-mongering about slippery slopes.

Linked to slippery slope arguments are fears that assisted dying laws will devalue the lives of old or disabled people. Many might feel they are a burden on their families or on society and so feel a pressure to die. These are important issues and a primary reason the proposed expansion of the law in the Netherlands is so troubling. Society should view the elderly and the vulnerable as people to whom we have obligations, not as inconveniences weighing us down.

The real issue, though, is less the law than wider social attitudes towards elderly and disabled people. During the Covid pandemic, there have been abuses of do not resuscitate orders, apparently given to care home residents and those with learning difficulties without regard for their wishes or welfare. The stories are shocking, but few would argue that the solution lies in getting rid of DNR notices. The same logic should shape the assisted dying debate, too.

There are many other questions from the need for improved palliative care to the relationship between individual choice and the common good with which to wrestle in this debate. Too often, though, these get entangled in a common refusal to see the significance of the argument from the other side. Compassion and moral righteousness dont belong in bunkers.

Kenan Malik is an Observer columnist

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Claiming a monopoly on truth and decency is no way to win the assisted dying debate - The Guardian

Albertas film and television scenes are thriving right now which has been pretty incredible not only for small talk and tourism but for anyone in the area with big dreams of being on the small screen. With crews, cameras and elaborate sets scattered from one corner of the province to the other, production companies are in need of extras, ready and willing to appear in shows like HBOs The Last Of Usand now, Under The Banner Of Heaven,a series based on the Jon Krakauer novel of the same name.

Produced by an impressive team of people including Dustin Lance Black, Jason Bateman as well as Ron Howard (among others), starring Andrew Garfield (The Amazing Spiderman) and Daisy Edgar-Jones (Normal People), Under the Banner of Heaven is a story of polygamy, delusional and violence.

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A depiction of a well documented true crime case, the show will follow Pyre, an elder of The Church of Latter-day Saints (LDS) who begins to question his faith after a strange encounter with Ron and Dan Lafferty, two men charged with the murder of their Sister-In-Law Brenda Lafferty and her infant daughter.

According to the non-for-profit organization Alberta Keep Rolling, the casting process has already started and will continue on into open to everyone and anyone from 2 years old to 100.

If youre interested you can check out the posting above. Theyve asked that anyone sending in submission do so with a headshot or 3rd-person photograph (nota selfie) and their name and age.

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It's a full house! Kody Brown deals with a lot as he caters to four marriages and 18 natural and adopted children. His family came into the limelight in September 2010.

Most women would rather stay single than share their partner with another woman - or three. However, the family featured in "Sister Wives" doesn't seem to care.

Despite the divorce and much drama, they have figured out how to make their household work for almost 30 years. Their family mostly talks about the beautiful spiritual side of polygamy when they aren't arguing or crying.

Kody is a former advertiserand TV star most known for his role on the TLC's reality show which focuses on his family.

With the popularity of the show, there were more quarrels. The Browns filed a lawsuit against Utah in 2011to repeal the state's polygamy laws.

They won at first but had the law took on a different course. Kodybelievesthatevery polygamous household is quite distinct. He is convinced his residence is one-of-a-kind.

Throughout the show, fans have been able to join the Browns in the challenge of advancing their family and the ups and downs of their relationships.

For years, the family had lived out their polygamous style almost in secret. It is unknown how this complicated family will turn out.

Merigrew up in a polygamous family and was young when she and Kody met through her sister. She was only 19, and he was 22.

After dating for two months, the couple believed they were soulmates and got legally married in April 1990. The couple had no children together until 1995, when their only daughter together, Mariah, was born.

Before then, Kody had already married his second wife with whom he had a son Logan Taylor, born in 1994, and his third wife, whom he married in 1994.

By the time his first child with Meri was born, his third wife had also given birth to the second child of the family, Aspyn Kristine, born in 1995, a few months before Mariah.

Meri and Kody divorced in September 2014, more than 20 years into their union, to marry his fourth wife and legally adopt her children.

While things between them aren't always perfect, Kody said he couldn't bring himself to give up on one of his women completely. They continue to be in a spiritual marriage even though not legally married.

Even though they claimed that it was just a change in the family structure and nothing more, thingshavenotgonewell in recent years.

Since the divorce, she drifted away from him and the rest of her family. She started an online relationship which later turned out to be a catfish situation.

After that, she has decided to investher energy into her B&B business, which she runs without help from the rest of the family.

Janelle and Kody have an unusual relationship. After she lost her dad, her mother entered into a polygamous relationship with Kody's father. This made her Kody's stepsister before she became his wife.

Before they married spiritually, on January 20, 1993, Janelle was married to someone else in 1988, but they got divorced in 1990 and never disclosed the reason for their divorce.

Janelle and Kody have six children together; Logan Taylor, Madison 'Maddie' Rose, Hunter Elias, Robert Garrison, Gabriel, and Savanah. Besides the show, Janelle has also become an author and runs her show on TLC Network.

After her fifth child, she decided to move away from polygamy to find some peace. After two years, she agreed to go back when Kody bought a house with three separate apartments.

Christine, a real estate agent, met Kody, Janelle, and Meri through their common faith, a sect of fundamentalist Mormonism known as the Apostolic United Brethren, or AUB.

She had a crush on him right away, even though his affections for her seemed to develop more slowly. She openly flirtedwith Kody and hoped she would be his third wife.

The two were friends for years before she expressed interest in wanting to marry him. When they started courting each other, Christine's family was thrilled.

Her familygave their approval to the union right away. Kody and Christine became engaged shortly after they began dating.

Christine wanted things done quickly, whileKody wanted to exercise patience and take things slowly. Six weeks later, they exchanged vows.

They have six children; five girls and a boy. The oldest, Aspyn, is twenty-six, and the youngest, Truely Grace, is eleven.

Robyn grew up in a polygamous family. She revealed that her mother was her father's second wife. This caused her father not to acknowledge that she was his daughter publicly.

Having gotten pregnant out of wedlock, Robyn got married to David Preston Jessop in June 1999. She had a son named David Dayton and two daughters named Aurora Alice and Breanna Rose.

In 2007, the couple divorced when Robyn said she was abused in her marriage. When she met Kody in the summer of 2009, she was divorced and worried about being heartbroken again, but he fell in love right away.

They started courting with Kody taking long drives to visit her. On May 22, 2010, they were spiritually married. However, Robyn needed Kody to adopt her children so they could bear his name legally.

He had to divorce Meri legally and married Robyn in December 2014. Together, they have two children; Solomon Kody and Ariella Mae.

However, her family members were not happy about the exposure she was getting from the show. In 2014, all the wives became cofounders of an online jewelry store called My Sisterwife's Closet.

She has also appeared as a cheerleader in "Country Music Television 2000 Countdown" and in an episode of "Just Shoot Me."

The family has moved to their Coyote Pass property in Flagstaff, Arizona, and a new season of "Sister Wives" will air on November 21. There are rumors of a fifth wife and more children, but the family has confirmed none.

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Activist and politician Boniface "Bonnie" Mwangi has started a charity drive geared towards helping 33-year-old Evelyn from Kisumu who lives in abject squalor.

In a video on his Instagram page, the award-winning photographer explained that he was in the lakeside county doing stories when he came across the suffering firstborn in a family of five.

Evelyn's problems stem from the fact that her polygamous father was married to seven wives, and both her parents died 20 years ago.

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Given that her late dad did not foster a healthy bond between them and her stepmothers and their children, she has been left to live like an enemy on her father's compound.

He added that the person who paid Evelyne's high school fees took advantage of her and left her with two children, essentially rendering her a teenage mum.

Given that she does not earn much yet has to take care of her children as well as her small siblings, the family barely scrapes by in their dilapidated house.

Polygamy is a phenomenon that has remained rampant in Africa since time immemorial.

Interestingly, it is loved and frowned upon in equal measure by individuals who were born and raised in such households.

Proponents believe that polygamy is good as it creates a large happy family where children have several siblings and different parents to learn and enjoy company from.

Critics, on the other hand, argue that a family with several wives is recipe for disaster as it creates a robust environment for jealousy and unhealthy competition.

It even gets worse, like in Evelyne's case, where the patriarch either loses his means of income and throws the household into financial struggle or passes on leaving the many wives and children brawling over meagre resources.

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The trial of 14 men, including a former president, was set to begin in Burkina Faso on Monday over the assassination of the country's revered revolutionary leader Thomas Sankara 34 years ago.

The slaying of Sankara, an icon of pan-Africanism, has for years cast a dark shadow over the poor Sahel state, fuelling its reputation for turbulence and bloodshed.

Sankara and 12 others were riddled with bullets by a hit squad in October 1987 during a putsch that brought his friend and comrade-in-arms Blaise Compaore to power.

Compaore ruled the country for the next 27 years before being deposed by a popular uprising and fleeing to neighbouring Ivory Coast, which granted him citizenship.

He and his former right-hand man, General Gilbert Diendere, who once headed the elite Presidential Security Regiment, face charges of complicity in murder, harming state security and complicity in the concealment of corpses.

Compaore, who has always rejected suspicions that he orchestrated the killing, will be tried in absentia by the military court in the capital Ouagadougou.

His lawyers last week announced he would not be attending a "political trial" flawed by irregularities, and insisted he enjoyed immunity as a former head of state.

Diendere, 61, is already serving a 20-year sentence for masterminding a plot in 2015 against the transitional government that followed Compaore's ouster.

Another prominent figure among the accused is Hyacinthe Kafando, a former chief warrant officer in Compaore's presidential guard, who is accused of leading the hit squad. He is on the run.

A young army captain and Marxist-Leninist, Sankara came to power in a coup in 1983 aged just 33.

He tossed out the country's name of Upper Volta, a legacy of the French colonial era, and renamed it Burkina Faso, which means "the land of honest men".

He pushed ahead with a socialist agenda of nationalisations and banned female genital mutilation, polygamy and forced marriages.

Like Ghana's former leader Jerry Rawlings, he became an idol in left-wing circles in Africa, lauded for his radical policies and defiance of the big powers.

Burkina Faso has long been burdened by silence over the assassination -- during Compaore's long time in office, the subject was taboo -- and many are angry that the killers have gone unpunished.

"The trial will mark the end to all the lying -- we will get a form of truth. But the trial will not be able to restore our dream," Halouna Traore, a comrade of Sankara and survivor of the putsch, said in a TV interview.

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Burkina to open trial of alleged killers of left-wing idol Sankara - FRANCE 24

Polygamous relationships are still a hot topic.

READ:Polyandry: SA wants to legalise women having multiple husbands

Just in case you don't know,polygamy is defined as a "marriage in which a spouse of either sex may have more than one mate at the same time".

While there are many avid supporters of the practice, there are just as many who are against this type of relationship.

READ:Meet the 'Extreme Sisters' who share everything... including their boyfriend!

But who are we to judge? As long as all parties within the relationship are happy and living their best lives, then you do you.

What can cause some issues in a relationship is when your partner suddenly changes.

READ:"My boyfriend has completely changed and I think it's because he is cheating"

People in relationships grow together, but they also grow apart. You might think you know everything about your soulmate, their likes, dislikes, and all their deepest, darkest secrets until they one day pull the rug out from right under you.

This has just happened toHlengiwe.

READ:"I recently discovered that my parents have been lying to me my entire life"

She has been married to her husband, her best friend, for 10 years and she thought they were content in their relationship.

Her husband had grown up in a polygamous family but from the get-go, the two of them had decided that they would be strictly monogamous and that polygamy was not an option for them.

READ:It takes two: Your partner cheated but who is really to blame?

Until now.

Hlengiwe decided to share her story and write to Stacey and J Sbu because she is in desperate need of advice.

Take a listen to her story below:

We asked KZN to also share any bits of wisdom they might have and this is what they had to say:

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"My husband of 10 years suddenly wants to have a polygamous relationship" - East Coast Radio

What we have learnt out of this is that people dont understand how they should behave when they are being approached to become second wives.

"They come with the understanding that they are better, or that they are approached because they can do better than the first one. That is the biggest challenge, he said.

I think we can as a society, as people, teach one another the reason why men would want a second wife. It is not based on shortcomings of the first wife. It is generally based on an idea to expand the family.

For the first time people said it was good that the show has brought this up, that we as a society have a better understanding on what was going on.

University of Zululand lecturer Shalo Mbatha, the author of Zulu Empire Decolonised, said that according to Zulu culture, when a husband decides to take another wife, he has to inform the current wife or wives.

He does not ask for permission. If the wife or wives dont agree or do not like it, it wont stop the man from going ahead. It is done in a dignified manner and in private. Non-family members are never involved or present when the husband makes the announcement.

As for what Bheki Langa did, it will remain a mystery because as a Zulu man, he knows the drill, she said.

Former journalist and consumer activist Ncumisa Ndelu, who organised the baby shower in Durban, said she did not like the humiliation on the show.

For starters, these women are not even given time to process the fact that their husbands have been unfaithful. They are put on the spot during the lowest moment of their lives, she said.

Having said that, we need to address this is happening in our communities because the show would not have content if these things were not playing out in our communities.

In May, the home affairs department gazetted a new green paper for the Marriage Act that includes a proposal to recognise polyandry. This would allow women to be married to more than one man at the same time.

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'It was a lie and I was humiliated'- Wifes polygamy shock on TV - TimesLIVE

"Most eggs carried on a single hat, 735 by Gregory Da Silva" @guinnessworldrecords captioned the video.

Gregory Da Silva is seen in the video balancing the eggs meticulously to ensure none falls.

Amazingly, he was able to get several hundreds of the eggs arranged in a hat placed on his head successfully to register his name in the globally renowned records book.

Meanwhile, the family of the Ghanaian herbalist who had more than 100 children before dying early this year is unhappy that their hero has not been included in the Guinness World Records.

Torgbui Kofi Asilenu was a herbalist who lived at Amakrom in the Upper West Akyem District of the Eastern region and majored in plant medicine for fertility.

He said in 2017 that despite having over 100 children then, he was still interested in producing more till his last breath.

Following his death in February this year, his children have expressed displeasure about the non-inclusion of their fathers name in the Guinness Book of Record.

According to them, their fathers achievement of marrying 15 wives and siring over 100 children with 280 grandchildren is unprecedented and will hardly ever happen anywhere in the world.

Oscar Asilenu, one of the children who spoke on behalf of his siblings said: We are not happy. In the era and time we are in now, no one has done what our father has done and nobody can do it again. It cant happen that someone will marry 15 wives and have more than 100 children ever again. Therefore, we think his name should be in the Guinness book of records.

Even after the funeral, names are popping up which we never thought of. This tells you that he has done a great thing which we cant take out of history.

Interestingly, although Oscar Asilenu thought his father has done well by marrying many wives and bearing numerous children, he is not prepared to continue his legacy.

I am a Christian. I will not advise anyone to go into polygamy. However, anyone who finds himself in that situation should be able to manage it, he said as quoted by 3news.com.

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Man from Benin balances 735 eggs on his head to enter Guinness World Records (video) - Pulse Ghana

Good morning! Here is todays summary from Nigerian Newspapers:

1. Vice-President Yemi Osinbajo says President Muhammadu Buhari is Nigerias most popular politician in generations. The Vice President said this during an interactive session with top officials of Nigerias High Commission in the United Kingdom during the weekend.

2. Suspected members of the Eastern Security Network (ESN), the militant arm of the separatist group, Indigenous People of Biafra (IPOB), have written to Ukwulu Community in Dunukofia LGA of Anambra State, warning them of plans to attack the community over failure to observe sit-at-home order. According to sources, members of the community woke up on Sunday morning to a notice pasted in parts of the area, warning them of not adhering to the exercise.

3. The Aare Onakakanfo of Yorubaland, Iba Gani Adams, on Sunday, urged the Benin Republic government to release Yoruba nation agitator, Chief Sunday Adeyemo fondly called Sunday Igboho, from detention unconditionally. Adams, in a statement by his Special Assistant on Media, Kehinde Aderemi, also congratulated Igboho on his 49th birthday anniversary, saying the best way to appreciate God in the life of the Yoruba nation agitator is to continue to live for humanity.

4. Human rights lawyer, Mr. Femi Falana (SAN), has written a letter to the Attorney-General of the Federation, Abubakar Malami (SAN), threatening to sue the AGF if he fails to recover $62bn from international oil companies as ordered by the Supreme Court. Falana said this in a letter on Sunday titled, Request for Compliance with Judgment of the Supreme Court of Nigeria in suit No SC. 964/2016 between Akwa Ibom & Two Others v Attorney-General of the Federation.

5. The National Leader of the All Progressives Congress, APC, Bola Tinubu, says only God can take his life. Tinubu stated this on Sunday at a welcome-back event held in his honour at the State House in Marina, Lagos. The event was attended by House of Representatives Speaker, Femi Gbajabiamila; Lagos State Governor, Babajide Sanwo-Olu, and his deputy, Femi Hamzat; Speaker, Lagos State House of Assembly, Mudashiru Obasa, among other APC chieftains in Lagos.

6. The Chairman Emeritus of DAAR Communications Plc, Raymond Dokpesi, on Saturday said one of the greatest errors of his life was going into polygamy. According to him, contrary to the impression that he entered into polygamy because of his wealth, he revealed that it was due to internal family challenge. He stated this in an interview with journalists in Abuja at the weekend as part of the activities to mark his 70th birthday.

7. The National Union of Petroleum and Natural Gas Workers (NUPENG), on Sunday, said that the planned strike by its affiliate members, Petroleum Tanker Drivers (PTD), has been suspended. Mr Tayo Aboyeji, the South-West Zonal Chairman of NUPENG, disclosed this in an interview on Sunday.

8. Former Deputy National Chairman of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP), Chief Olabode George, has picked holes in the zoning formula adopted by the party, saying the decision to hang the Presidency in the air is dangerous. According to Bode George, there should be no ambiguity about the fact that the Presidency should go to the South with the zoning of the chairmanship position to the North.

9. The Governor of Ebonyi State, David Umahi, has pledged N2 million cash reward to any person with vital information on the identity and activities of unknown gunmen terrorising the state. He assured that the identity of the informant would remain secret. He made this known at the weekend during a one day prayer summit, held at the newly built Christian Ecumenical centre, Abakiliki city capital.

10. The National Drug Law Enforcement Agency (NDLEA) has said that a group of drug cartels have abducted an unnamed retired personnel of the agency after officers arrested a 19-year-old female drug dealer, Mngunengen Achir, in Benue State. The Spokesman of the agency, Femi Babafemi, said this on Sunday in Abuja in a statement.

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Nigerian Newspapers: 10 things you need to know this Monday morning - Daily Post Nigeria