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Over the last few months, South Asia has been caught in yet another cycle of religious violence.

In October, Muslim extremist mobs in Bangladesh inflicted serious violence against the countrys Hindu minority during its most important festival, Durga Puja. The trigger? A Facebook post showing the Quran being placed on an image of a Hindu deity. To some Muslims, this offensive post justified attacks on Hindu shops, temples, and homes across Bangladesh.

The violence didnt stop here, though. In the neighboring Indian state of Tripura, Hindu extremist groups protesting the Bangladesh violence engaged in retaliatory attacks on the states Muslim minority.

Sadly, its all too common for religious violence in South Asia to be spurred by incidents of religious offense or blasphemy. Strengthened by colonial-era laws which make religious offense a crime, sometimes punishable by death, citizens often take matters into their own hands, leading to a bloody cycle of violence and global headlines of mob violence and lynchings.

For those of us in the South Asian diaspora, these headlines are painful to read. For some of us, our friends and family back home are under threat. But unfortunately, not everyone agrees on how to break free from this cycle.

The predictable cycles of religious violence in South Asia can be described fairly simply. First, a member of a religious or ethnic minority is accused of offending the religious sentiments of another community. In India, Muslim or Dalit men may be accused of slaughtering a cow. In Pakistan, a Christian woman may be accused of disrespecting the Prophet Muhammad, or a Hindu boy may be accused of urinating in a madrasa library. In many instances, this is enough to put someone in jail. In Pakistan, blasphemy merits the death penalty. In India, those who are seen as engaging in religious offense (listed under Section 295A of the Indian Penal Code) can face a prison sentence, a hefty fine, or an extra-judicial killing.

Whatever the trigger is, and whether or not arrests are made, we see that violence often takes place shortly after. Often, these rumors spread via Facebook or WhatsApp. Soon, a mob will gather. They will destroy homes, shops, and places of worship belonging to the minority community. Law enforcement will often turn a blind eye, or in some cases, actively participate in the violence.

Finally, violence in one country ignites retaliatory violence in another. We saw this recently, where attacks on Hindus in Bangladesh led to attacks on Muslims in Tripura. Similarly, the demolition of the Babri Masjid, a medieval mosque, by a Hindu mob in India in 1992 triggered violence against Hindus in Pakistan and Bangladesh, as well as many religiously-motivated pogroms afterwards.

A few weeks ago, I spoke on the phone with a leader of New York Citys Bangladeshi Hindu community, who was extremely resistant to making the connection between the persecution of his fellow Hindus in Bangladesh and the persecution of Muslims in India. He insisted, Please dont tell me about India. I only want to focus on my people, Hindus in Bangladesh.

I suggested that there was folly in focusing on the minorities in Bangladesh without considering the minorities in other neighboring countries, particularly India. I reminded him of Martin Luther King, Jr.s quote: Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.

And then, something clicked for him, and he said, In 1992, I was a child. A mosque called Babri Masjid was broken in India [by Hindus], and my relatives in Bangladesh were killed in revenge. I didnt even know what Babri Masjid was. All I know is that we paid with our lives.

His recollection hinted at something deeper: It can be uncomfortable to acknowledge that your religious community can be an aggressor in one country and a persecuted minority in another.

Unfortunately, most Hindu organizations in the diaspora have ignored this uneasy truth. Rather, many of these groups condemn anti-minority violence when its committed against Hindus, but then make excuses for anti-minority violence when its committed by Hindus.

For an example of this, we can look at how one of the largest Hindu-American organizations, the Vishwa Hindu Parishad of America (VHPA), reacted to the violence in Bangladesh and Tripura. The VHPA is aligned closely with the political ideology of Hindu nationalism, and has a proven track record of collaborating with Hindu extremist ideologues such as Yati Narsinghanand Saraswati, who has publicly declared that Islam should be eradicated from Earth all Muslims should be eliminated.

Following the attacks on Hindus in Bangladesh, the VHPA signed a letter to the Bangladeshi ambassador to the United States calling on him to ensure the safety and security of minorities in Bangladesh. And yet, when the VHPAs Indian counterpart led attacks on Tripuras Muslim minority as revenge, they went silent.

This is not a sustainable course of action. By turning a blind eye to violence committed by their fellow Hindus in India, Hindu-American organizations like the VHPA are fueling the cycle of violence in South Asia. And although Im talking about Hindu extremists here, what Im saying applies equally to fundamentalists of any faith.

If were to break free from this cycle of violence, we must speak up for each others right to thrive and live with safety and dignity, no matter who we are or where we live. For me, as a Hindu, Im taught to see every person, and every aspect of the universe, as equally divine. This is not unlike whats known in other traditions as The Golden Rule. And while treating others as we would want to be treated is one of the first things parents teach their children across nearly every culture and religion, clearly we grownups are in need of a reminder.

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How Do We Break the Cycle of Religious Violence in South Asia? - Religion Dispatches

This story is part of Gamepurs Best of 2021 round-up.

The fascinating thing about indie games is that theyre unlimited in what they can do. They arent held back by a big company that can dictate what can and cannot be in them, making each title that comes out in the genre different. This list has our top five indie titles released in 2021, all of which have a great story, engaging gameplay, and amazing overall quality to them that puts them over the rest of the titles released this year.

In a year in which many visual novels have been released, Gnosia stands out as one of the best of 2021. You play as an amnesiac crew member aboard the ship. Some of your crew members are malicious beings known as Gnosia and its your job to find out who. The catch? Every time you find out who the Gnosia is, successfully or not, you are brought back to the beginning, repeating each day with additional crew members and conditions. Its your job to find out more about who everyone is, the underlying circumstances of the time loop, and how to break out of it.

The gameplay is much like the beloved tabletop game Werewolf where everyone is assigned roles each route. In some loops youll be a regular crewmate, in others youll be the Gnosia, or a different role like Guardian Angel. Youll have to deduce who is lying and point out the real threat. Or, if youre the bad guy, youll need to point the finger at someone else. If youre a fan of social deduction games but always wanted an emotional tale attached to it, Gnosia is a story that will stick with you for a long time after you put it down.

Escape Simulator is an online escape room where you can play with your friends. Much like regular escape rooms, you are tasked with solving multiple puzzles, but the game takes it a step further by having a multitude of rooms for you to solve before you can reach the end. Just like in real escape rooms, youll have to search every nook and cranny in order to find keys or pieces to one of the puzzles in the room. The rooms that come with the game are creative and highly interactive. With the addition of community-made rooms, theres new content constantly coming out for Escape Simulator that will keep you and your friends entertained for hours even after finishing the base rooms.

In Boyfriend Dungeon, you play as a young adult who moves into their cousins apartment for the summer. Youre there to get out of your comfort zone and finally start dating people. To help you gain confidence in yourself and get to know people, you go into dunjs to earn some cash with cool-looking weapons. But it turns out those weapons youre wielding are the very people you can date. As you go through the game, youll hack and slash your way while getting closer to your shapeshifting weapon of choice.

The game has a diverse cast of romance characters, including non-binary romance options, and in a genre thats heavily dominated by cis-gendered, white characters, its incredible to finally see more people in the world get represented in a tasteful way. Overall, Boyfriend Dungeon is a much-needed title in the romance genre that teaches players about the good and bad of dating, emphasizing that even with the bad, you shouldnt let that stop you from being happy.

The popular tabletop game Gloomhaven found its way onto Steam this year. You take control of a team of mercenaries, who adventure throughout all of Gloomhaven to face the terrifying creatures that plague the land. However, if youre not feeling up to playing the game alone, you can play with three other friends online, which is the best way to experience this game.

Each mission you complete, known as scenarios in this game, will unlock items in the shop and new missions, some of which are branching. So, if you decide to side with Jeksarah, a woman who wants to overthrow the government and replace them with the undead, not only will you be locked out of certain quests tied to the incumbent government, but the land of Gloomhaven will be changed forever. With 11 mercenaries to unlock, totaling 17 total playable characters, theres a character for everyone. Gloomhaven is a comprehensive, incredibly tough game thats faithful to its source material. For those looking for a challenging but rewarding experience to play with their friends, Gloomhaven is a title you all should pick up.

Originally a mod for The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim, The Forgotten City is a time-loop mystery thats now a fully-fledged video game packed with updated graphics and voice acting. Youre transported back 2,000 years to a Roman city. Youre told that in this city, everyone lives under the Golden Rule: if one person commits a crime, everyone suffers and is turned into gold. Youre then tasked with preventing the Golden Rule from being broken.

The game does a fantastic job at exploring the moral dilemma of having the perfect city with no crime. Although it sounds good on paper, youll come to realize just how hard that really is. No one is perfect in The Forgotten City theyre all flawed individuals who might end up breaking the Golden Room, dooming everyone, and forcing you to start from the beginning. But thanks to the games wonderful time-loop mechanic, you keep all the information youve learned as well as the items you picked up. The Forgotten City is an incredible mystery that makes great use of the time-loop mechanic and its one game that you wont be able to put down until the credits start rolling.

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The five best indie games of 2021 - Gamepur

I love watching Christmas movies. And there are quite a few of them. Ive been known to watch some even when it wasnt the holiday season. They are almost always of the feel good variety unless you count Die Hard as a Christmas classic. You know what I mean. Theres a great story line and theres a happy ending. Happy endings are important to me. How many times have you watched a movie, only to be left hanging at the end with no resolve to the plot? No ending leaves me very disappointed.

Other feel-good movies that I have particularly enjoyed include When Harry Met Sally, Toy Story, Father of the Bride, Trains, Planes and Automobiles Ferris Buellers Day Off and of course a Christmas classic, Christmas Vacation.

One of my favorite movies is Its a Wonderful Life starring Jimmy Stewart and Donna Reed. The plot is that an angel (Clarence) is sent from Heaven to help a desperately frustrated businessman George Bailey (played by Jimmy Stewart) by showing him whatlifewould have been like if he had never existed. Theres the villain banker, Mr. Potter, who represents evil and greed. And theres Mary (Donna Reed), Georges devoted wife. Do you all know any individuals with these traits? I know I do, and Im fortunate that I have a lot of angels who surround me with love and optimism.

Back to the story line. Clarence is a down-on-his-luck angel who has yet to win his wings. He has an incredibly challenging job of guiding George as he reflects on his life to date, which had been fairly ordinary. But as the plot continues, George has the opportunity to see how his actions significantly impacted many lives. It is only when Clarence presents to him how things would have been had he never existed that George is able to realize the extent to which his life has indeed been very meaningful.

How many times have we stopped to analyze the impact of our existence? If you have had a child, that right there is monumental. That child wouldnt have existed if not for you. And think about the impact your birth had on your parents. Your actions, both big and small, make a difference. Your kindness and caring have an enormous impact on a daily basis. If, however, you lack conscience and empathy, that can only be harmful and negative.

How many times do you hear news reports every day about the crimes and misdeeds of people whose existence bring nothing but misery, despair, and grief? Can it be these people are without a conscience? There are so many who have no realization of the anguish they inflict on their fellow humans. And they seem not to care.

So, as you go about your day-to-day, think of the impact you have on everyone with whom you come in contact. Sure, it takes only minimal effort to be kind and courteous to random strangers. But we should all exercise the golden rule of treating others the way you want to be treated.

What Clarence says is true: Strange, isnt it? Each mans life touches so many other lives. And when he isnt around, he leaves an awful hole, doesnt he? Be mindful of the lives you touch and be grateful for those lives that touch you.

Bonnie Brown writes a weekly column for The Oxford Eagle. She can be reached at bbrown@olemiss.edu.

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For someone whose golden rule is, when writing these curiosities, dont mix work with pleasure, I find myself dipping my toes more frequently into teaching waters with the passing years. During what seems like one of the longest terms of my career, for some unfathomable reason, we, on a five-minute respite, found ourselves back in the classroom in the 1980s as punters, as we discussed what we miss from teachers of yesteryear.

No doubt in 30 years time, my current charges will discuss me and my colleagues: "You remember that bald chap who wore those awful black crepes and laughed at his own jokes," they may say. Well, thats the hope: that we are remembered fondly once we are in career decline, and they hit their occupational peaks.

I used to have a French teacher who I didn't think was very good. In fairness, neither was I, as my current linguistic Francois skills still amount to being able to tell a random Pierre my name, where I live, and to ask them to point me in the direction of the nearest boulangerie. This teacher looked like Neil from the Young ones, with long greasy hair, as he called everyone man and smelt of exotic herb. He was also an advocate for Deep Purple and wore the widest flares I have ever been unfortunate enough to witness in the flesh. While he was writing something about French cats on the blackboard, I climbed under his desk with a ruler and measured the girth of his trouser hems, much to the merriment of the rest of the disengaged. At the end of the lesson Neil had a chat which resulted in him lifting me clean off the ground as he held me against the wall and told me in no uncertain terms that his flares were not to be measured. I took the hint and had a grudging respect for him after, as he gained a well-deserved reputation as the hardest hippy in town.

As well as the dress sense, which has come on leaps and bounds since teaching in the 1980s (I have only once seen a leather elbowed jacket in my entire careerand yes, it was a geography teacher), the one major change, thankfully, is the eradication of violence meted out to kids at that time which, strangely, the parents never seemed to kick off about. Violence, nay fear, nay discipline was viewed differently then, and the backing would generally fall on the side of the teacher, who would have had just cause for such sadistic outbursts.

A typical example of teacher chic. Pixabay

There were no computers: I spent a total of about 10 minutes on one until the age of 23 when, at university in my second year, I had to go in and ask some young bucks how to turn this thing on and get that thing you write on, on the screen. Instead, many hours were spent by educators in science writing up lessons on acetate and then projecting them onto a white wall, as we watched the dust particles float past and wished we were back in French. Running barefoot through the fields if you forgot your PE kit was accepted practice, as was the daily slap around the head.

And so, we move on: such practice has, mercifully, been assigned to the education dustbin of history. Your kids are genuinely safeguarded, from my experience, and treated in the main with the utmost respect, but maybe we have, as a collective, gone too far:

As I believe I may have mentioned in these pages before, aged around 15, I was called into the school hall with three others (and by God, we were thankful as we got away from the smells of the lab and the teacher with the dark green sweat patches on his underarms) to speak to an old man who fancies a chat.

We spent a good couple of hours in his company as he asked questions and did these random, yet hilarious comedy skits with funny voices, faces and walks as his eyes glistened through being appreciated by his intimate audience, despite their being a definitive sadness behind his eyes. Nowadays if a random old man turned up at the school for a chin wag, he would no doubt be carted off to the nearest police station.

Upon arriving home, having had a pleasant afternoon after legitimately skipping Science, I told my dad about the old chap. Who was he he asked. Not a clueSpike something he was called. Milligan? he asked. I responded in the affirmative before I got a telling off for not knowing I was talking to one of the comedy greats. That said, I was thankful the old fella didnt slap me around the head with a blackboard rubber, for my unfortunate teenage oversight.

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The golden rule of beauty gifting is and shall always be one for them and one for yourself. As we look across all the incredible beauty gift sets of 2021, it's been a celebration of balancing self-care with all-out glamour. In addition, 2021 beauty trends have allowed us to embrace trendy moments of duality, because we're big fans of luxe joggers, a nude skin palette, and a wisp of shimmer!

Beauty bundles in every category, from bath to hair care and beyond, have been spilling over in our online shopping carts. So let your beauty-centric gifts celebrate both the empowerment that comes with a bold makeover as well as the effortless beauty of a natural look.

We're super excited to share these 2021 beauty bundles highlights, which are a smattering of the year's best-loved beauty gifts. Of course, there's an endless list of gifting opportunities including birthdays, holidays, and milestones but the best gifts are for the unexpected "just because" moments in between.

Be beautiful. Be kind. And remember: Those two things are one and the same. So, gloss up, smile, and gift on!

The founders of Mented Cosmetics created avegan, paraben-free, non-toxic, and cruelty-free brand that celebrates the beauty of all skin tones. Though the brand name is a fun play on words, its products deliver serious beauty results. With some online love from Well + Good, the brand'slipstick set continues to wow with ninenude and neutral shades to choose from.

With five travel-friendly sized haircare products, the amikaSignature Healthy Hair Set is the perfect gift for people on the go. The set includes shampoo, conditioner, a nourishing hair mask, dry shampoo, and amika's famous Wizard Detangling Primer. One of Fashionista's eight fave haircare product lines of 2021, this amika beauty gift is our new mane squeeze. Get it?

Eighteen shades of outta-this-world eye shadow are enough to make us starry-eyed, but adding twolip balms into the mix is a straight-up cause for celebration. Pat McGrath is a makeup legend for a reason, and her MTHRSHP MEGA beauty gift set is equally legendary. This set is perfect for the friend that wants one palette to grant all her wishes. It's no wonder the set caught the eye of The Zoe Report. Look at that magical mossy green shimmer just winking at us from within the color choices. Yes, please!

Oh my goodness!The unexpected superstar of self-care beauty has arrived. Spongell's Flower Child Collection features three body wash-infused buffers. It's important to exfoliate and moisturize, but this set does both while making it feel luxurious! Each infused body buffer lasts for at least 14 heavenly, bubbly washes. Suggestcaptures the brand's spa-like quality and giftable price points, and we're also here for it.

Full disclosure: This beauty gift set's packaging had us at "hello."Thier candles are celebrated across the internet by outlets including Bustle, and now this everything set is our new go-to gift. With hints ofplum, cardamom, and amber, theMount Bachelor Gift Set includes soap, lotion, a candle, a roller perfume, and linen spray that doubles as body spray. We're basically giving it to everyone. For every occasion.

When Oprah recommends a product, you listen up and add it to your cart. And according to Oprah Daily, the daytime TV queen loves the bareMinerals gifting sets. There's no argument here we're also swooning for the Mini Skincare Favorites Set. It includes the Deep Cleansing Foam, PorelessExfoliating Essence,Long Life Herb Serum,Bare Haven Soft Moisturizer, andLong Life Herb Eye Treatment. When you feel like doing the bare minimum, this bareMinerals set will ensure flawless skin. Wrap it up and cue the bestie of the year awards!

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While companies push to return to their offices, employees would rather stay at home, according to a new global survey from Insider.

This gap between companies and employees shows up when it comes to who makes decisions about working models, who is consulted during the decision-making process, and how the new rules of the workplace are enforced.

Insider readers from the United States, Mexico, France, Spain, Poland, and South Africa participated in an online survey that asked for their feelings about returning to the office.

Many employees in all countries especially the USA and South Africa prefer not to work at the office for even a single day a week, the survey found.

An important element for many more employees who took the survey was having the ability to decide on the number of days at their office based on their own preferences and work needs.

No matter the country, respondents said that most companies (over 60% on average) prefer to use a hybrid work model partly at home, partly at the office with 3-5 days a week spent at the office.

Fewer than half of survey respondents in most countries said their employers asked them about their preferences for their post-pandemic routine.

58% of survey respondents in the US are considering looking for another job. The Great Resignation phenomenon is mostly limited to the US, but still about a third of the employees in Poland, France, and South Africa indicated that they are considering changing their jobs.

Meanwhile, two of America's largest employers, Google and Apple, have summoned their US employees back to their offices in January and February 2022, respectively. As these dates approach, corporate workers from the two big tech companies are leaking letters of discontent to the media, demanding that their firms be more flexible and inclusive in their approach.

Insider's survey shows that companies are indeed pushing to return to in-person working with about half of respondents in France and Spain already back at the office.

Over 50% of US respondents will return in January 2022, while over 40% of the respondents in South Africa will return in the first quarter of next year assuming no further changes on the trajectory of the pandemic.

Who should decide on the model? In the US, South Africa, and Poland, companies are more likely to leave this responsibility with top management, the survey found, while employees and middle managers have more influence over the model in France, Spain, and Mexico.

There is no golden rule for the number of days in the office, and the survey showed geographic variations in this area, too.

While US and French companies often impose a set number of office days for all staff, those in Spain, Mexico, South Africa, and Poland often leave it to the team leader or the employee to decide based on their work needs.

While companies prefer the office, employees' dream workplace is their home. 82% of our respondents said so, on average, with the share of satisfied American, South African, and French workers reaching as high as 87%, 88%, and 89%, respectively. Only Spanish workers were significantly less enthusiastic.

Employers can enforce their hybrid work solutions, but may face a new risk: one of massive resignation. Companies have the tools to close the gap between employee and company with more internal consultation or leaving decisions with teams.

Employers understand very well that the role of the office as the center of corporate life will diminish over time. Some of them have already made appropriate decisions about their real estate needs. As the survey respondents attest, one in four companies has already reduced its rented office space as a result of its new work model.

The Business Insider Global Trends return-to-office survey was completed online by close to 1,400 users from Insider and Business Insider sites in the United States, Mexico, Spain, France, Poland, and South Africa.

The respondents represented a wide range of company sizes, with small companies (up to 50 employees) accounting for 19%, medium-sized ones (from 50 to 1000) for 44%, and large ones (from 1000 to 10000 or more) for 38%.

The survey data was collected in November 2021. The global results were premiered at the Business Insider Global Trends return-to-office webinar on December 6, 2021.

You can access a free report based on the survey results by visiting this link.

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Results of our global trends return-to-office survey - Business Insider

Why are we the way we are? Can we blame it on somebody else, like the British colonists, for instance?

By we I dont mean just you and me. I dont even include us necessarily. I am thinking about folks who live in North Carolina and the surrounding regions.

You know the kind I mean. Hard-nosed, sometimes rebellious, resistant to direction from those who think they know it all, suspicious of people in charge, unwilling to give up individual choice to some kind of group direction.

It is not just those anti-vaxxers who will not accept an infinitesimal risk to themselves or their children in order to reduce to great risks all of us face from the ongoing series of COVID epidemics. It is not just them whom I am talking about.

Nor is it just the Republicans. Or the Democrats.

Lots of us on both sides of the political divide share a common resistance to authority. How do we explain it?

Writing in The New Yorker on Oct. 4, the author and columnist Joe Klein gave it a try, writing, The divide between maskers and anti-maskers, vaxxers and anti-vaxxers is as old as Plymouth Rock. It is deeper than politics; it is cultural.

For his ideas, Klein credited a 1989 book, Albions Seed: Four British Folkways in America, by David Hackett Fischer. This book, Klein says, explains how the history of four centuries ago still shapes American culture and politics.

Focusing on the South, Klein says the original settlers were, a wild caste of emigrants from the borderlands of Scotland and England. They brought their clannish, violent, independent culture, which had evolved over seven centuries of border warfare.

According to Fisher, these emigrants came from a society of autonomous individuals who were unable to endure external control and incapable of restraining their rage against anyone who stood in the way.

Fisher writes that the Scots-Irish in the southern hill country were intensely resistant to change and suspicious of foreigners. In the early 20th century, they would become negrophobic and antisemitic.

Other parts of colonial America were settled by different groups.

For instance, Klein writes about the Virginia-Cavalier tradition.

The Virginia definition of freedom was complex, contradictory and remains problematic. It was hierarchical, the freedom to be unequal. I am an aristocrat, John Randolph of Roanoke said. I love liberty; I hate equality. Freedom was defined by what it wasnt. It wasnt slavery. It was the freedom to enslave. It was a freedom, granted to the plantation masters, to indulge themselves, gamble and debauch.

Over time, Klein continues, this plutocratic libertarianism found natural allies, if strange bedfellows, in the fiercely egalitarian Scots-Irish hill country folk.

Neither wanted to be ruled by a strong central government.

Klein says things were just the opposite in New England. For the Puritans, Everything was regulated.

Order was an obsession.

Local officials reported on the domestic tranquility of every family in their jurisdiction. Cotton Mather defined an honorable person as one who was studious, humble, patient, reserved and mortified.

About a different group of settlers, Klein writes that the Quakers seem an afterthought, but their migration was larger in size than that of the Puritans or Cavaliers. And their version of liberty seems most amenable today. It was reciprocal freedom, based on the golden rule.

Fischer notes the Scots-Irish practiced the opposite: Do unto others as they threatened to do unto you.

The Scots-Irish, Virginia, Puritan, and Quaker legacies are very different and are, perhaps, diluted over the almost 300 years since these immigrants came. But the influence of each continues.

The Scots-Irish influence in our region is still tenacious, which explains why the Do unto others as they threatened to do unto you rule is widely practiced by people across the political spectrum.

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For many of us, its been awhile since weve dined in at a restaurant. Its daunting, especially for those with social anxiety, to think about going to a restaurant after so much time confined in our homes. Im here to let you know that youre not alone! As someone whos worked in the hospitality industry, I have the pleasure of listing some tips to ensure you and your server have a pleasant experience next time you go out. So without further ado, here are few tips on how to be a good customer:

Identify your situation

Before even stepping foot into the establishment, its important to ask your party a few questions. Is the restaurant dine-in or takeout only? Its a bummer wanting to dine in at a restaurant, only to find that they do takeout only.

Do I have a large party? If you do, it might be best to reserve a table. This way you dont have to wait too long and your server doesnt have to scramble to find table space.

Masks

Were in a weird time. Masks are required indoors but eating requires masks off. To be safest, wear your mask until your meal is served. Put the mask back on to go to the bathroom or ask your server a question. Itll make the restaurant workers and fellow diners feel more comfortable. And if theres outside dining available, please utilize that option.

Common courtesy

Remember those magic words: please and thank you! Those phrases can go a long way. The golden rule stays true put yourself in their shoes. Dont seat yourself unless instructed, dont interrupt your server, dont leave the table a mess, dont snap your fingers at a worker, etc.

Tipping

In American society, tipping is a must! Before you go out, make sure you have enough money allocated to the meal itself and the tip. 15-20% is the standard and if you have an amazing server, feel free to tip more. Itll make their day a little brighter. FYI: Writing a compliment on the receipt without a tip is almost worse than no tip at all (yes, people do this and yes, it hurts).

And of course, if youre feeling any COVID symptoms, please stay home! We all want to return to normal as soon as possible, but its in everyones best interest to stay home if youre feeling under the weather.

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Stephen Curry has passed Ray Allen to become the NBA's all-time leader in three-pointers.Will anyone ever break Curry's record? Where does the Warriors star stand among the greatest players of all time? And what has been Curry's most memorable three-point shot? The Crossover staff answers three questions on the three-point king.

Howard Beck: Er, probably not, but maybe? It took Curry 12-plus seasons, converting 3.8 threes per game, with an accuracy of 43%, to claim the record. But Currys rate accelerated along the wayfrom attempting four-plus threes per game in his early years to 10-plus in recent seasons, as part of the NBAs broader three-point explosion. Now everyone takes a ton of threes, which means a shooter just entering the NBA will have an advantage in chasing the record, based on volume alone. So while we might never see another shooter as accurate as Curry, his mark might one day fall, anyway.

Jarrel Harris: Nah! Stephen Curry is only 33!! Ray Allen played in 1,300 games and Steph is about to break the record in under 800 games. The game has changed, of course, but just imagine the number Steph will be at if/when he hits Allen's games played mark. For someone who doesn't rely on that much athleticism compared to a player like Russell Westbrook, there's a chance we could see him hit threes for 10 more years if he remains healthy or really wants to.

Chris Herring: Ever? Yes. In our lifetimes? No. And I dont think itll be particularly close to happening by then, either.

Chris Mannix: Reggie Miller gave way to Ray Allen who gave way to Steph Curryso, yes, someone will come along who will make more. Curry has spawned a whole generation of three-point bombers (see Young, Trae) so it's hard to believe one of them won't eventually eclipse Curry's accomplishments.

Ashley Moss: Look, I don't have a crystal ball, but unless Steph's son, Canon, follows in his dad's footsteps and inherits that shooting DNA ... no.

Rohan Nadkarni: Yes. The game just moves forward too much, and Steph has inspired a whole new generation of shooters to pull up from the logo and bomb away. Eventually there will be a shooter nearly as talented as Curry and, because of the evolution of the sport, that player will be given even more chances to shoot from outside. But I hope it doesnt happen.

Michael Pina: Written with no confidence whatsoever: Yes. Curry is not an outlier. Hes a trailblazing icon who forever changed everything thats valued and feared on a basketball court. Currys legacy is tangible in the sense that hes inspired generations of youngsters to play like he does. Eventually, at some point in the next 50 years, at least one will rise as a worthy heir.

Pina: The Mike Breen Double Bang against the Thunder back in February 2016. It came on a Saturday night in a nationally televised showdown between two star-studded championship contenders. There will never be another 37-footer launched with a second left in a tied overtime game that feels that inevitable. If you saw it live, youll never forget where you were.

Moss: The shot against the Clippers in 2015. First of all, Steve Kerr was speechless, and to leave your coach without words is a flex. Steph came across the lane, behind the back, stepback, at the top of the key and it was at this moment I knew he was different from a lot of other guys in the league. Yeah, you have a lot of dudes who can shoot, but with Steph he's just better at it ... than everybody.

Beck: This one, without question. Steph pulling upcasually, without a hint of hesitationfrom 37 feet, in the final second of a tie game, on the road, against his teams biggest rival, on national television and just draining it as if it were the most natural thing in the world? I would argue this was the moment the deep three became normalized as a go-to weapon (as opposed to a desperation heave).

Herring: The game-winner against Oklahoma City will always stand out. The way he silenced the crowd. The way Enes Kanter Freedom shrugged along the bench before the shot even went down, seemingly knowing his team was screwed. The way Mike Breen went nuts.

Harris: Most will say the three against the Thunder, which was outrageous. But my favorite three from Steph was the one during his 54-point explosion against the Knicks at MSG in 2013. He shook Raymond Felton off the dribble and just launched it to give him 46 points in the game. It was the moment that made Steph a superstar, and he has been on the longest heat check ever since.

Mannix: I'm partial to the absolute bomb Curry hit against Oklahoma City, in 2016. Time winding down, meaningful regular-season game against a conference rival, Curry pulls up from close to 40 feet to drill a game-winner. Remarkable shot.

Nadkarni: The OKC shot is obviously the coolest shot Steph has ever hit and it is my favorite, but I will throw one more in the mix: Game 6 of the 2015 West semis against the Grizzlies. Curry hit a shot from inside the three-point line on the opposite side of the court to end the third quarter and its absolutely ridiculous. The Grizzlies have just missed their own three when Steph gathers the ball after a block, nonchalantly takes one and a half steps, and swishes a three from three-quarters court. That shot was one of the many early examples about how you cannot rest against Steph for even a half second no matter where he is on the court.

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Herring: Steph is already in the top 15, in my opinion. We talk a lot about how Kevin Durants joining the Warriors hindered his legacy, as it potentially made the pursuit of titles too easy. But more than anything, it robbed us of the ability to see what Steph couldve done with the original Golden State core. So winning another title now would eradicate whatever questions remain.

Moss: No question he's the greatest shooter of all time and will be for a very long time. Greatest player of all time? Steph is top 15 at No. 15. For me, I still put Kevin Durant and Kevin Garnett slightly above him. Believe this though, another ring and Steph cracks the top 10.

Mannix: He's arguably the greatest shooter of all timeI only use the qualifier because I would really have loved to have seen Reggie Miller and Ray Allen play in this era, when firing up double-digit threes per night is the rule, not the exceptionand a third MVP award will put Curry at least in the conversation for greatest point guard of all time. Plus: The way he is playing now, at 34, he has a lot of good years left.

Pina: If Curry stopped playing tomorrow hed without question qualify as one of the 20 greatest players ever. By the time he actually retireshes still playing at such a high level and might easily add at least one more MVP or championship ring to his treasure chesttheres a decent chance he cracks the top 10.

Beck: Asking where Steph ranks all-time underscores why this exercise is so inherently fraught. Theres never been an NBA superstar built like Curry. He is unquestionably the greatest shooter of all time, the greatest scoring point guard of all time and one of the greatest leaders weve seen. But his profilephysically and stylisticallyis completely unique, and trying to compare him to LeBron or MJ or Kobe or Wilt or Kareem or Magic or Bird or Russell or Duncan or Shaq is, well, just sorta ludicrous.

Nadkarni: Stephen Curry is one of the 10 most impactful players in the history of the NBA.

Harris: He is in the top 10 for me. I take pride in being a Steph Curry believer since his sophomore year at Davidson. It has been rewarding to watch his journey from March Madness standout to one of the best to ever play the game. He turned something that seemed so simple like a three-pointer into an exciting play. He's a once-in-a-lifetime player, and there are only a handful of players that can truly say they changed the game.

Mannix: A generational talent.

Herring: Splash Brother Extraordinaire.

Pina: Transcendent. Mythological. Electric.

Beck: Audacious. Electrifying. Joyful.

Moss: Generational. Elusive. Automatic.

Harris:Spellbinding. Rare. Showman.

Nadkarni: Best. Shooter. Ever.

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MamamiasFive Golden Rulesseries takes a pervy look into the lives of Australian families. From parents of toddlers to parents of teenagers, the series asks parents to share their golden parenting rules, including the rules for their kids, and rules to just get through each day.

This week, we hear from Yumi Stynes, a radio presenter, author of multiple books such as Welcome To Consent and Welcome To Your Period,and host of the popular podcast, Ladies We Need To Talk. Yumi is also mum to four kids.

As a recent guest on Mamamia's This Glorious Messpodcast, Yumi shared her Five Golden Rules for parenting with hosts Holly Wainwright and Andrew Daddo.

"This is a really profound rule that sometimes as parents we forget," Yumi shared.

"We say to our kids, 'Come here I need to put sunscreen on your face', and we pin them down and literally go against their wishes and override their consent to smear sunscreen on them.

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"While it's kind of normal as a parent to do this, you also have to understand that consent is about being the CEO of your body. People will try to invade, but you will continue to be the boss and that's the message I want to convey to my kids.

"This is something I have learnt more about over time as my kids have got older and that when I give my kids agency, to dress how they choose for example, they generallyrespect it and operate within the realm of common sense.

"It's hard not to wipe their mouths after eating when there's food all over their chin, but there are ways as the parent to say, 'I know you don't want me to do this, but you really need to wipe your face'.

"Give them justification or warning before acting on a parenting impulse but if they cannot bear it, then back down.

"If they don't wear the sunscreen, perhaps they might get sunburnt and then re-think it next time!"

"We all love screens and TV in our house and there are a lot of shows we love to watch as a family, but mealtimes are a great opportunity to switch off and talk and so this is a rule I have stood by for the last 19 years.

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