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There are a million rules when it comes to dating but it's time we got rid of this one. Photo / Supplied

OPINION:

Never, ever make the first move.

In the world of heterosexual dating, this one is the golden rule. It trumps all the others, like only text after three days, let them contact you first so you know they're interested, wait double the amount of time between sending texts as they do.

I want you to throw those rules out the window. The rule book? Poof, gone.

When it comes to dating there is one thing you need to know - games are for players. They are to be left in 2019 with the pre-pandemic world when we thought we had time to play them.

I've read every dating book I can get my hands on, scoured the web for dating columns, Cosmopolitan articles, podcasts, the list goes on, and the message that is constantly relayed is "never ever make the first move" followed by threats of a doomed relationship if you do.

Case in point: in Textbook Romance, Zoe Foster-Blake was quick to assert that by showing interest first you've denied the man of the chase. This is something men supposedly need before they even consider you as a potential girlfriend and by taking it away from him he will instantly slot you in the "disposable" part of his brain.

The thought kind of makes you want to s*** your pants. It's threatening, scary and absolutely not where you want to be in a man's brain.

But I continued reading anyway because the appeal of Textbook Romance was the note on the cover: "How to find the guy, make him fall wildly in love with you and keep it that way". And who doesn't want to be loved?

Unfortunately, I didn't get much further through the book because I was far too obsessed with the texting rule and spiralled.

What do you mean I can't text a guy first? What if I'm really interested in him and my fingertips are literally burning because I need to make that clear? It became my rule to live by for the next few years of dating, and I was fully convinced this one dating habit would result in me finding my one and only Prince Charming.

Shockingly, it didn't. And perhaps my biggest mistake was never making it to the end of the book because the final chapter says you should ignore absolutely everything in the book. Foster-Blake, while a dating advice legend, can only give generic advice, not tailored.

So now that I've got my own dating experience and the world has changed dramatically since Foster-Blake's book, it's clear that the rule of waiting passively for a man to make contact is what is setting so many women up for failure.

You've probably heard the saying "if he wants to text, he will" and maybe that's what's put you off texting first. While it is true to an extent because men have long been known to be more impulsive than women, the dating game has changed form. Take, for example, Bumble.

The dating app is known for its sassy rule, only women can make the first move. Which, if we were going by the theory in Textbook Romance, would mean it has zero users because men like the chase, not to be chased.

The fact is women are coming into their own dating personas and in doing so they aren't scared of making the first move in relationships and you shouldn't be either.

Since I have nil experience in dating assertiveness, I reached out to friends and the women I've spoken to about this are firm believers that, yes, if a man wants to text, he will. But it's not isolated to making contact first, it also means that regardless of who floats the idea, the date will still happen.

And if he doesn't, if he makes an excuse or leaves you on "read" or gaslights you into pretending he didn't see the message - like Che did to Miranda in And Just Like That - at least you'll have immediate clarity that he isn't the man for you and you can move on.

Dating rules are there for a reason, they worked for someone at a certain point in time but 2022 dating is completely different to anything we have ever experienced before and you should approach it with your own rules.

Go on instinct, not what a book, a podcast an article or even a dating column is telling you to do.

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Often when we talk about stories, we question whether the stakes are high enough, or too high, or whether theyre even extant. In Groundhog Day, the classic 1993 comedy about a self-centered weatherman (Bill Murray) stuck in a time loop, tangible stakes quickly fly out of the window, with emotional and, more importantly, philosophical consequences being the only real stakes at play.

Pretty early on in the film, Murrays character, the obnoxiously narcissistic Phil, realizes that there are no consequences for his actions. He can steal, seduce, wreak havoc and even kill himself, and nothing about his circumstances will change. No matter what, he will still wake up with Sonny and Cher on the radio in the small Pennsylvania town of Punxsutawney.

His situation feels like the perfect recipe for nihilism, the philosophical idea promoted by Friedrich Nietzsche and others that life is pointless and the values that we hold dear have no root in actual fact. And who could blame him for being a nihilist when hes faced with a blank slate every day? Phil follows this philosophy to its logical conclusionshedonism and suicidemultiple times. No matter what, hes still under that homey quilt in the morning. Nihilism is not the answer.

From there, Phil works on his own personal growth and starts to help the townspeople he once rebuffed, partly because hes grown, but also because his development as a person endears him to his producer/love interest Rita (Andie McDowell, with glorious hair). At this stage, he seems to be subscribing to enlightened self-interest, the idea that in helping others, you in turn help yourself (basically the golden rule revisited).

It works for him most of the time, but he still has to start from scratch every day in terms of winning over Rita. Phil is painfully aware of how far hes come as a person towards the end of the movie, confessing to Rita that the worst part of his predicament is waking up every morning with her still thinking hes a jerk. So even though Phils change of heart serves him to some extent, hes hardly a man of enlightened self-interest, considering the effort he has to go through to prove himself to Rita day in and day out.

Phils actions do follow a philosophy, though: absurdism, particularly that championed by the French philosopher Albert Camus. Absurdism doesnt fall that far from nihilism, preoccupying itself with the inherent dissonance between our desire for meaning and the senselessness of the universe. Camus seminal work The Myth of Sisyphus invokes the Greek myth which isnt all that different from Phils circumstances: Sisyphus is tasked for eternity with pushing a boulder up a hill, only for it to roll back down to the bottom again, then he pushes it back up, and on and on.

Ultimately, though, Camus says that we can find happiness in the face of the absurd, as long as we both accept the absurdity of life and keep trying to create our own meaning. As he wrote in The Myth of Sisyphus, Happiness and the absurd are two sons of the same earth. They are inseparable.

Phil follows this doctrine by embracing the cycle in which hes trapped. He learns new skills like ice sculpting, saves a kid falling out of a tree, and preoccupies himself with general do-goodery. Phil also creates meaning by finding solace in his connection with Rita, despite him having to rekindle it every day. Only in embracing the absurd is Phil set free.

Our circumstances can feel so dire sometimes, between the greed of the upper classes, ignorance on climate change and any other number of issues that feel obvious in their solution, save for the inertia of world leaders. However, maybe by accepting the absurd we can find some of the peace that Phil has as he walks through the snow hand in hand with Rita.

Clare Martin is a cemetery enthusiast and Pastes assistant comedy edtior. Go harass her on Twitter @theclaremartin.

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AA LaNyalla Mattalitti, Chairman of the House of Regional Representatives of the Republic of Indonesia, also known as the Senate House, officially nominated the Visions of Peace Initiative for the Nobel Peace Prize.

I fully support the Visions of Peace Initiative (VOPI) to win the Nobel Peace Prize. To date, VOP has held more than 50 events throughout Indonesia and has inspired hundreds of thousands of young people.

VOPI events have been held throughout the Republic including areas that have experienced conflicts and natural disasters. Hopefully through the engagement of youth using art and other creative forms of expression the VOPI can continue to inspire the younger generations. With the positive results that the VOPI has achieved to date, I believe the VOPI is very deserving of the Nobel Peace Prize.

In addition, the leader of the Peoples Consultative Assembly of the Republic of Indonesia and H. Muhammad Farhan, SE, member of the House of Representatives of the Republic of Indonesia have also nominated the VOPI to the Nobel Peace Prize Committee.

According to the founders of the Visions of Peace Initiative, Prince KPH Dr. Damien Dematra and Princess Cheryl Halpern, the recognition and nomination of the Visions of Peace Initiative from the Indonesian Senate House is unprecedented and incomparable honor. This extraordinary acknowledgment of a non-governmental organization has never happened before in the history of the Republic of Indonesia. This most meaningful tribute will inspire everyone who has already participated in the VOPI and those who are yet to participate, to continue to promote peace and tolerance.

Princess Halpern explained the perspective upon which she and Prince KPH Dr. Dematra founded the VOPI saying, The Visions of Peace Initiative embraces the Ethic of Reciprocity, also known as the Golden Rule, a universal value that is included within all faiths and traditions. This Ethic of Reciprocity teaches us to, Do Unto Others As You Would Want Done For Yourself and Do Not Do Unto Others As You Would Not Want Done To Yourself. It is a message that finds expression through the millennia in the teachings of all faiths. It is also a concept that is central to Indonesias motto, Bhinneka Tunggal Ika, Unity With Respect For Diversity since without respect for diversity within a family or community there can be no unity. However, this essential pillar of civil behavior is not effectively taught to the youth of today.

The Visions of Peace Initiative is committed to imparting a meaningful understanding of ethical behavior that can be achieved through an appreciation for the value of reciprocity. Every participant in the Visions of Peace Initiative becomes an advocate for tolerance as they bring their vision and understanding of the Golden Rule to their homes and community. They have learned that there is a nobler and more fulfilling alternative to intolerance and violence. By embracing the Golden Rule they are displaying behavior that promotes civility, dignity and respect.

Prince KPH Dr. Dematra expanded on his co-founders comments saying that, the mission of the VOPI is to inspire young Indonesians under the age of 18 to express their views about tolerance and peaceful coexistence through the broad spectrum of the arts: including drawing, poetry, song, dance and film. These arts modalities provide multifaceted platforms through which to bridge socio-economic, ethnic and religious divides. By using their artistic talents the participants channel their ideas and share their perspectives on tolerance, peace and respect for each other. The VOPI provides an important opportunity towards nurturing attitudes of respectful communication and acceptance.

Since its inception in 2017, the VOPI has been working together with schools, orphanages and religious organizations throughout Indonesia.

As of the start of 2022 the VOPI has already held 52 events in different Indonesian cities. In response to the Covid-19 pandemic the Visions of Peace Initiative went viral in order to continue to engage with young people throughout the Republic. To date, I am proud that the VOPI has touched and inspired hundreds of thousands of young Indonesians.

Youth today live in a time when much of the world is suffering from violence, hatred, intolerance, bigotry and abuse. These themes are present in most of the stories that are broadcast and shared on the global multi-media and social networking platforms that they access. As a result, all youth need to be taught, with and by example, that when individuals are persecuted because of their gender, race, religion or physical limitations, that they have a duty to protest and fight injustice before they too lose their human dignity.

With this is mind the Visions of Peace Initiative is honored to have also been nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize by Prof. Dr. Ir. Oktovian Berty Alexander Sompie, Rector of the Universitas Kristen Indonesia Tomohon and by Dr. Ephraim Isaac, Director of the Institute of Semitic Studies at Princeton University. Both of these respected academicians have prioritized the importance of the VOPIs teaching the young about civility.

Princess Cheryl Halpern and Prince KPH Dr. Dematra urge us all to appreciate Alfred Nobels comment that, Good wishes will not ensure peace. We must remember that civility and peace require a steadfast commitment to instill in every generation an understanding of the Ethic of Reciprocity.

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Things change because people become tired of the same old, same old.

Stephanie L. Walker, B.S.N., spent her working career helping people as a nurse in the pediatric intensive care unit, emergency department and intensive care unit, as an instructor and as a hospice nurse. At every step of the way, she charged herself with ensuring the patients under her care were treated with care and compassion and in line with the Golden Rule. She worked to ensure that the students in her nursing classes understood the importance of following those tenets. When her health forced an early retirement, she struggled to find purpose in her life, for she had always been a giver.

A few years ago, the late Katherine OBrien reached out to her about advocacy and told Stephanie that she was going to put her out there. As Stephanies involvement as a metastatic breast cancer advocate continued to grow, it became obvious to her that there was an absence of color in a number of areas. She began to ask questions of organizations: How can you advocate for a person of color when you have no one in your leadership who reflects people of color? She pushed for inclusion on committees and boards and volunteered to participate in programs presented by organizations such as Susan G. Komen.

In medically underserved eastern North Carolina, Stephanie became the face and voice of the metastatic breast cancer community and she worked with civic groups, church groups and businesses to ensure that everyone understood that inclusion helps everyone when the battle with metastatic breast cancer is underway.

To that end, she chaired the MBC Alliances BECOME project in 2021 to ensure Black people are better represented in cancer research. Building on a 2019 project conducted by Marina Kaplan, an epidemiologist who lived with metastatic breast cancer, BECOME was a research initiative designed to find solutions within the Black community.

The data collected tells a disturbing story. In the United States, the mortality rate for non- Hispanic Black women with breast cancer is 40% higher than for non-Hispanic White women. And while clinical trials help improve outcomes and survival, Black people represent only 3% to 6% of patients in all cancer clinical trials.

The survey responses will help patients make more knowledgeable decisions, educate doctors on how to support patients in joining trials and help researchers understand and design clinical trials in a way that encourages Black participation.

Stephanie works every day to ensure that the voice of every person with metastatic breast cancer is heard equally. As a person of color, she understands the disparities faced by many in the waiting room, the doctors office, the board room of the pharma conducting the trial and, sadly enough, in the organizations that say they advocate equally for all. And just as she battles her cancer daily, she also fights daily to ensure that everyone with metastatic breast cancer has an equal opportunity.

Stephanie Walker never set out to become an advocate, but it is a role she has embraced and one in which she has grown as she works to ensure an inclusive and diverse treatment arena.

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Here's mine from my English class:

The 5 Rules In My Life:

1. Always Assume Disappointment.If you are always assuming that someone will let you down, youll never be disappointed. And if they dont you will be pleasantly surprised.

2.Always Respect Someone Until They Give You A Reason Not To.

When you meet someone new, you respect them. Until, they say/do something that makes it so you dont anymore.

3.Dont Assume Something Is True.

If you hear something about somebody that didnt come from the person themselves, always ask them if it is true.

4.Do What Makes You Comfortable.

Who cares what John in the deli thinks? If you like that shirt, f*****g rock it! Do whatever makes you happy, not what you think other people would like.

5.Put Yourself First.

If someone, (i.e, a friend, an S.O, a coworker) wants to do something you dont want to do, makes you uncomfortable, is pressuring you into something, dont listen. Listen to what you want first. You are the most important person in your life. You will always come first.

Follow these and live the best life!

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"You can't change the past. Haw Haw!" (Nelson from the Simpsons)What you do today will change your future.The now you live in is a product of your actions in the past.

Summary: You can act now to change your future. Don't regret the past.Try to live in the moment while making the best decisions you can for tomorrow.

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The Golden Rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. The older I get the more I see in that seemingly simple cluster of words. I should admit that I stray at times, because I am human. But when we raised our children, that was our guide. It gave us patience, and guidelines when we needed them, and made us better listeners. it also enabled us to comfortably admit when we had no idea what to do as parents. Instead of pretending (lying) we talked with them, listened, and ended up with a solution we could all accept.

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If youre going to complain to someone, complain to someone who can fix it. Otherwise, dont just complain to anyone. Everyone has there own problems, dont add to theirs.

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Always put your keys back in the exact same place! On a hook, in your front left pocket, in your purse. Otherwise, they could end up in the fridge or inside the couch!

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5 things to quit:1. Trying to please everyone2. Fearing change3. Living in the past4. Putting yourself down5. Overthinking

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Always be polite to strangers especially where people serve or help you.

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Never get into car without using restroom first. Never leave the house without 'seeing' the cat. Don't want to leave her in a closed room without access to her litter box.

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When I have to make a decision or a choice, I think about which action I might regret the most if it doesn't work out. I play all the alternatives to the end, and focus on which one feels the most bearable if it wasn't the best one. Which one can I back out of, or most easily undo, if necessary? Most advice I read is "go for what makes you happy", "maximize profits", positive stuff like that. Positive outcomes do not come often to me and cannot be counted on, so I stick with minimizing the emotional fallout from negative ones.A second rule I follow is to document everything and save as much as possible, and that often means on paper. You can't count on cloud storage to always be there. I am talking to you, Kodak EZ share, Verizon Pix Place, and Google Plus, where some of my photos vanished forever, and their warnings were either too late or the method they gave you to save them did not work. My most recent "thank you for saving all those boxes of crap, Mom" incident was the College Board trying to tell my 35 year old she had to take the SAT again, because they lost the record that she took it. Well I didn't lose it, they dug a bit harder and she did NOT have to relearn all that useless algebra and geometry to try and achieve her 1400 score again!

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Everything I learnt about morality:

1. Morality is subjective and relative.2. There exist commonly held values.3. Morality requires authority.4. A rule is more enforceable if it has greater support and strength.5. Religion is mankinds first attempt at finding factual and moral truth.6. Humans generally value their own lives.7. More can be achieved through cooperation.8. War is the ultimate form of conflict resolution.9. Karma does not enforce itself, but rather your actions affect how others react towards you.10. One has to balance self interest with the interests of others.

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Normal doesn't exist, weird is I complement.Keep friends close, fight for them.Never judge the looks before the person.Expel the opinions and advice that you know will be useless to your personality.If it helps someone else then it helps.

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1 - Try not to be a hypocrite.2 - Be aware that everyone is the protagonist in their own story, including the villain.3 - Sometimes you HAVE TO be the a$$h()le.4 - Try to be self aware that behavior that seems normal or fine, may be threatening to others (this does not include snowflakes or SJW's...eff them).5 - Just because a person has a different political view or religion than you, does not make them 'the enemy'; sometimes your side is just plain wrong.6 - Always be prepared to change your opinion in the light of new information. Double check sources though.7 - The beggar looking for a handout in the pouring rain or blizzard, probably needs the money.8 - 'fess up when you mess up. Any employer that would fire you for an honest mistake, is not a place you really want to work.

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If you're in a tight spot, your only appropriate response to sincere offers of help is "Yes, thank you". Swallow you pride and stomp on any revulsion of "accepting charity" until it stops twitching. Your best interests are served by accepting any help offered with gratitude.

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Im not moral or strong enough to follow my creed as closely as I should, but it goes, Weigh all words and actions with compassion and reason. When in doubt, err on the side of compassion.

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ALWAYS hug your partner when they come home. From work, the store, whatever. Hug and reconnect physically. This actually syncs your breathing, allows you both to relax, and be happy and at peace with each other.

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72 hour rule. I tend to be very reactionary which has caused A LOT of trouble for me in the past. At one point I realized that when I calmed down and thought things thru I generally considered things from multiple perspectives and regretted my initial reaction. So I initiated the 72 hour rule. When something makes me VERY angry or upset I inform the person involved that I will not discuss it again for the next 3 days. In that time I consider the problem and follow up accordingly. Obviously there are times that 72 hours arent reasonable but by using this technique most of the time Ive become much better at responding more reasonably and less defensively. Its now to the point that the major players in my life know when I need my 3 days and several folks (including my mother.. oh the irony!!) have adopted this rule!

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1 - Treat everyone how you want to be treated 2 - (to paraphrase the Wiccan rule) An it harm none, do what you will3 - If you can't say something nice, say nothing4 - The only person I need to be better than, is the me from yesterday.5 - If you aren't sure about doing something, go ahead and do it; it's better to look back and think I shouldn't have done that, than look back and say "I wish I had..." (Originally said by Cher, I believe)

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Life is life and you need to follow your own path.

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Never leave anything on a chair that you wouldn't want to sit on.

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Respect boundaries and property, including property you're renting/borrowing.

Allow yourself to make enough time for you and don't expect your job to schedule that for you.

Resting is being productive and most important next to nourishment. Don't feel guilty for chilling and sleeping.

Prioritize food over luxuries.

Never just eat the same things all the time. Explore that store.

Everyday is a school day. Now is the time to learn about all the things you've ever wanted to know. Curiosity should never die.

Never suppress emotions. If you feel angry, be angry and shout. If you're upset, cry. If you need to scream, scream. No one can dictate what you should feel.

Don't be such an opinionated, authoritarian towards your kids they'll never want to talk to you about real issues. Always have an open door blind of judgement, make clear rules with reasons and demonstrate healthy communication. They're not turkeys.

Don't push too hard to make things happen. You might cause a disaster. Do give opportunities a nudge and go with the flow. If you really want something else, start the process or move on.

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When you rely on someone - you are abandoned

The only person you can ever rely on and who is always there for you is yourself. That's why I don't do what I don't think is right and only do what makes me happy.

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To borrow from Socrates, "a life unexamined is not worth living"You may and you will lie, doesn't matter if you like it, but try not to lie to yourself, at least.Honesty above truth.Where your personal stuff is concerned, don't make many compromises.

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My rules of life are1. Never talk about anyone unless you know them and it is something nice2. If someone looks uncomfortable, go see what's going on and if they need help.3. Try your best to help others and adapt to what they need at that moment.4. Be polite and kind.5. Always defend others.6. Never start a fight. 7. Never turn your back on someone unless they deserve it.8. Don't try to fit in, just be yourself.9. Stay away from the 'Cool' kids.10. Always go at your own pace on tests. 11. Someone is innocent until proven guilty.

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1. if they ask for money and didn't pay you back don't give em anything2. the hot water belongs to the one who wakes up early enough3. never eat taco bell unless you want to get rid of guests 4. sound proof the windows

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1. Never suffer a liar, a thief, or a cheat.2. Take nothing but photographs, leave nothing but footprints, kill nothing but time.3. Do what you can, where you can, when you can.

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Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.

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Big decisions where the right choice isn't obvious?: Have a good night of sleep. The best choice will be clearer the next day.

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I have a few.... Never marry a guy who proposes in times square on New Year's Eve or at a football game.... Don't post anything online you wouldn't let your grandmother read... dress how I want... and when you binge a series don't tell anyone about it

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I have one that I follow very much.

Always try to be honest. The truth can be much more fascinating and easier to keep track of in your head than any work of fiction you might be tempted to come up with.

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1. Never borrow money from friend and/or especially family. It so rarely works out and even when it does, they will always be able to lorde it over you.

2. Look at the people who you're asking for advice from and ask yourself if this is a model of who you want to be.

3. Don't ever believe you are special. You're not. Goth? There are a million others like you. 'I'm just kind of weird'... not you're not. There are many like you. Don't ever think you're unique because you end up sometimes getting depressed or worried about not fitting in. Whatever you're worried about, most people are worried about, too.

4. If you really want to be differnt then be smart, push past the excuses people will allow you to give into to justify not pushing yourself and not succeeding. And don't give into mediocrity because it's easier.

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1. Be true to myself, and accept myself for who I am2. Try to forgive and try to not hate anyone or hold grudges3. Only spread kindness and goodness4. Don't judge people that you don't know

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Mine all relate to my distrust for the people Im forced to live with like dont make funny sarcastic comments unless theyre in a good mood, always keep grades up, dont refuse things, let them guilt trip you because if you dont itll get worse etc etc 🙂

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1# Keep learning, keep improving. 2# Say you are sorry for X. Not, I'm sorry you are X. There is a difference, and it means a lot to hear it. 3# Talk to yourself like you are your best friend. 4# Allow yourself to express bad feelings, then keep moving. 5# Listen to your body's limits. 6# When you can, offer help to someone. 7# Remember everyone makes the same mistakes, even when they know better. 8# Let other people be happy, how it makes them happy. Don't tell them why you think they're doing it wrong. 9# Learn to trust, knowing it can hurt. 10# The job does not, in fact, own you.

Others I haven't quite pinned down. This helped me really put them into words, thank you.

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In my community we have a few basic rules that our men follow, and if we don't the rest of the men will have a talk/fight with you depending on what you did:

1. We never harm women, whether that be physically or verbally.2. We never lie to our wives.3. We do what ever we can to protect our loved ones.4. We try to think of a plan for every situation that could endanger us or the ones we love (home invasion, natural disaster, etc.)5. If somebody insults you turn the other cheek. If somebody insults your wife or another female in your family then they will apologize.

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Learn how to say No to the people that only around when they need help and never reach your desperate call. It's easier and healthier to pursue a future dream than to change the past. Be a decent person, if you can't sympathize at least don't be an Ahole. It's ok to be different if you're comfortable with a small circle of friends and distance yourself from the potential trouble, that's your choice, and you're free to choose. Never engage with office drama, stay away from people who bad-mouthing colleagues. If you are traveling to a new place always learn the local wisdom and try your best to follow the guideline. Believe your guts. Try to stay within budget, never get a loan for unnecessary things. Sometimes in life being helpful to others keeps us alive, just remember not to burn ourselves out. Even if it's hard, live a healthy lifestyle, If exercise in the gym is too much hassle, static walking while watching TV is better than nothing. Do not litter. Stay away from drugs.

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1. Go with your gut.If something doesn't seem right it probably isn't.2. Better to be quiet and have a few good than loud and have many fake friends. 3. If someone can't accept you for you, they aren't worth your time. 4. NOBODY deserves to know anything about you.I used to come out to people because i thought they "deserved" to know instead of me wanting to tell them. This is how i was outted to my Catholic school.

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Joey Logano has been extremely successful in the NASCAR Cup Series since his first full-time season back in 2009. And hes done it his way. Thats meant ruffling a few feathers along the way.

This week, just days before the Clash at the Coliseum, where many expect aggressive beating and banging action on the quarter-mile track, the 2018 champ talked about his plan of attack inside the iconic venue. And he interestingly discussed his moral racing code and just how far hes willing to go in order to achieve victory.

Last year, NASCAR President Steve Phelps, who worked 14 years with the NFL in its marketing department, appeared on theI Am Athlete-NASCARpodcast and discussed, among other topics, his time in the NFL and his experiences in NASCAR.

During the conversation, he named his top five NFL players he worked with based on marketing-athletic ability and then named a NASCAR driver equivalent. Emmitt Smith made his top five. Joey Logano was his match.

Im going to go Joey Logano, Phelps said. Ill give you just a quick why. Because I dont know Emmitt Smith well, but Ive met him a couple of times. Hes sharp. Hes obviously an incredible talent, Hall of Famer and all that. Think he does a really good with his own brand and I think he cares about that sport.

Joey Logano cares about this sport. Id say Joeys a little more when hes out of the car, phenomenal guy. Smart. Cares about the sport. When hes in the car, he doesnt give a s***, Phelps admitted. Couldnt be nicer. When you get in the arena, hes going to, I dont care who you are. Ill take you out.

With the start of the 2022 NASCAR Cup Series season beginning with an exhibition on a custom-built quarter-mile track inside the LA Coliseum, Joey Logano and all the drivers will be tested on multiple levels.

For starters, no drivers have ever raced a lap on this new bullring, which took just over a month to construct. In addition, its the first time any of them will be driving the Next Gen car in actual racing conditions.

With so many unknowns, some drivers might hang back and play it safe, trying to avoid an accident and the ensuing damage. Logano is not one of those drivers. This week in a call with reporters, the 31-year-old said in the type of aggressive racing everyone expects in the Coliseum, his mindset remains the same as it does in any race, and he tries to follow the Golden Rule.

You have to be consistent. Whats consistent? Im going to win. Im going out there to win the race, Logano said. Thats the goal. And we do what it takes to do that.

But you have to have your moral code and what is considered OK. Is straight-up dumping somebody OK to go win the race? I dont think so. Thats not really in my cards. Now, a bump-and-run, Ive proven thats OK. And the facts are you have to be OK with it happening to you. Am I OK with getting wrecked? No. Am I OK with getting moved out of the way? Yeah, Im not going to be happy about it, but Im going to have to be OK with it if Im going to do it. I feel like that should be the code. Whatever youre OK with happening to you, you should be alright with doing to somebody else. Thats only fair.

Joey Logano vocalizing what he deems as acceptable on-track behavior makes logical sense, but in the heat of the moment, emotions can get the best of the drivers. All of them remember how someone raced them.

For a number of drivers, theyre not fond of Loganos tactics. That became apparent in last yearsUSA Todayannual survey that features answers from NASCAR Cup Series drivers to unique questions about their fellow drivers.

Logano received votes for the most frustrating driver to race against, with one vote from his arch-rival Kyle Busch and an eyebrow-raising tally from his longtime Penske teammate Brad Keselowski.

However, that wasnt the only negative category Logano won. On the question of driver most likely to bump you out of the way to win a race, the Team Penske driver received votes from Keselowski, Matt DiBenedetto, and Christopher Bell.

Logano has earned a reputation as the guy that Steve Phelps correctly pointed out doesnt give a s*** on the race track. And hes OK with it.

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Mikaela Shiffrin, of the United States, races down the course during a training run for the World Cup downhill ski race, Tuesday, Nov. 30, 2021, in Lake Louise, Alberta. ((Frank Gunn/The Canadian Press via AP))

Mikaela Shiffrin, who at 26 is perhaps the best alpine skier in American history, already has a few lifetimes worth of memorable wins under her belt as she heads into the Winter Olympics. But it is a loss she witnessed when she was a child that still sticks with her.

When she was 6 years old, the US hosted the winter games in Salt Lake City, where all-time great mens skier Bode Miller already had two silver medals and was cruising towards a third in the slalom. All he needed was to complete a second attempt with a passable run to rack up a medal. Instead, the New Hampshire native went all guns blazing in an all-out play for gold, only to make an error on the course and lose his shot at a third podium. Miller hiked back up the mountain to finish out his run.

Even at a young age, Ms Shiffrin has said. I could relate to that.

Her career has shattered record after record, but she would need a whole lot of grit to keep going all the sameexperiences she will carry as she represents the US in Beijing.

The lightning fast alpine skier, who competes across all events rather than specialising like many of her competitors, made her debut on the World Cup stage at 15, and has been notching unprecedented feats ever since. In 2014, at 18, she became the youngest Olympic slalom champion in history. With three Olympic medals, six world championships, and 73 World Cup races, shes the most decorated American alpine skier in history, male or female. In 2015, she once won a World Cup race by more than 3 seconds, the largest margin of victory in nearly 50 years.

Mikaelas the best Ive ever seen, male or female, in a few different categories, Bode Miller himself told TIME. She can do whatever she wants.

Her success has been great, but it hasnt been without equally great challenges. Being a child prodigy on the world stage, and a natural introvert at that, came with alienation, with people viewing her as some sort of freak of nature, describing her skiing as cyborg-adjacent it was so precise and skilled.

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I feel like [they] look at me and are like, Do we speak to it? she told Sports Illustrated, who once dubbed her the worlds most dominant athlete.

Then there was the pressure that came from her outsized success. During the 2018 Olympics in South Korea, she won another two medals, including a gold in slalom, but still came in for criticism from some when she pulled out of the super-G and downhill categories, citing fatigue.

That alienation would only grow in 2020 when, her dominance atop the sport long since proven, her beloved father Jeff died in a freak accident at home in Edwards, Colorado. Mikaela wouldnt ski for nearly a year.

My family is heartbroken beyond comprehension about the unexpected passing of my kindhearted, loving, caring, patient, wonderful father, she said at the time. He taught us so many valuable lessons but above everything else, he taught us the golden rule: be nice, think firstThis is something I will carry with me forever. He was the firm foundation of our family and we miss him terribly.

Jeff Shiffrin, an anesthesiologist in Vail, Colorado, and former Dartmouth University skier himself, was a constant presence in the prodigys life in- and outside of skiing. He helped teach Shiffrin to ski in the driveway at age two, and was a constant presence at World Cup dates, known for trekking around the sidelines snapping photos of his wickedly talented daughter.

After spending weeks in mourning, she tried to return to competition in Sweden later that year, only to see the race canceled because of Covid. She was overtaken in the standings and lost the shortened 2019 - 2020 season.

She made her return to skiing that November, and embarked on a shaky comeback season, notching eight less World Cup podiums than the year before.

Still awash in grief, she pulled out of some events, citing the example of Olympic gymnast Simone Biles, who has withdrawn from some competitions to protect her mental health. That year, Shiffrin described feeling mentally vacant, blacking out while competing and forgetting what had just happened, wondering momentarily if she forgot how to ski. Perhaps most terrifying of all for a sport that involves whipping down a mountain at nearly 80 mph, she would get a sensation of darkness closing in around her field of view, obscuring the course before her.

Its not about settling scores, she told the Olympic channel at the time. I am angry that my dad died, I am angry how lonely I feel most days.

The 2021 season proved difficult as well, with a back injury stalling her training in October and a positive Covid test doing the same in December.

But the cyborg-adjacent skier is returning to form, and is now back to number one in the world alpine womens rankings.

She has credited embracing those complicated emotions that have accompanied her rise to the top of world sport. She has done everything from meditate, to read Sheryl Sandbergs book on grief Option B, to write music, to see a sports psychologist, to raise money for the Jeff Shiffrin Athlete Resiliency Fund, a programme to support athletes undergoing adversity.

She would return to mottos questions her dad used to her as she worked her way through ascending levels of competition as a kid: Are you happy? Is it fun? And shes making it a priority that the answer to those questions is yes.

I finally feel like myself again, she told The New York Times. When a devastating thing happens, its like coming back from a significant injury. I hadnt lost my ability or lost my fire, I was just healing, OK?

During the Beijing Games, shell be back to competing in all-five alpine ski races. If she continues on her current tear, she could easily surpass Julia Mancusos all-time, four-medal record for American womens skiers or even Swedish skier Ingemar Stenmarks record for 86 career victories. Another of her fathers mottos was process over results. Its about skiing your best in the moment, not chasing records or number-one finishes. When Mikaela Shiffrin hits the slopes in China, that process will now include a deep well of resilience.

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With freezing temperatures and slick roads, dozens of Austin restaurants, bars and coffee shops are closed on Thursday.

We've compiled a list of closures and delays, just in case you needed tobrave the elements to pick up food. But keep in mind: The Austin metro area is under a winter storm warning until 9 p.m., according to the National Weather Service. Travel might be hazardous due to icing. Officials urge caution while drivingandrecommend staying put if you're able.

Check directly with the restaurants for the most recent updates about service on Thursday and heading into the weekend. Did we miss something? Email kbradshaw@statesman.com.

515 S. Congress Ave.

The coffee shop announced on its Instagram page that its location at Riverside Drive and Congress Avenue is closed Thursday because of the weather. Its other locations, at Highland and on Martin Luther King Jr. Boulevard, are open.

All Austin Juiceland locations are closed.

All P. Terry's locations are closed.

All three Ramen Tatsu-Ya locations are closed for lunch service on Thursday. Updates about reopenings will be posted on the restaurant's Instagram page.

2406 Manor Road

Dai Due is closed Thursday and will reopen on Friday at noon.

121 Pickle Road

Cosmic Coffee plans to delay opening until noon on Thursday. If that changes, the shop will post an update on its Instagram page.

406 Walsh St.

Better Half is closed Thursday and Friday. The restaurant said on Instagram: "City shut our water off tonight. Mother natures freezing our water tomorrow. Sounds like a recipe for staying hydrated at home. See yall this weekend for brunch resumptions."

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8504 S. Congress Ave.

The seafood truck is closed, according to the shop's Instagram page.

All Easy Tiger locations are closed because of the weather. The restaurant will open at 11 a.m. onFriday for lunch.

641 Tillery St.

Flitch announced via itsInstagram story that it is closed on Thursday and Friday. It will reopen for the weekend.

7107 E. Riverside Drive

Ani's is closed on Thursday because of the weather. The closure was announced on Instagram.

909 N. Lamar Blvd.

Shoal Creek Saloon is closed Thursday, according to the bar's Instagram page.

5621 Airport Blvd.

Quality Seafood is closed Thursday and Friday. The restaurant said on Instagram: "Stay safe, keep warm and we will be here with Gumbo on Saturday!"

900 E.11th St.

Franklin Barbecue is closed Thursday and Friday, according to the restaurant's Instagram page.

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The South Lamar and Liberty locations of East Side King are closed, according to the restaurant's Instagram page.

619 N. Colorado St. in Lockhart

Kreuz Market is closed Thursday.

1209 E. 11th St.

Hillside Farmacy is closed Thursday, according to its Instagram page.

1807 South First St.

Lenoir is closed on Thursday and plans to reopen for happy hour on Friday, according to its Instagram page.

1900 South First St.

Bouldin Creek Cafe is closed Thursday, according to its Instagram page.

2115 Holly St.

Launderette is closed Thursday and Friday and will reopen for brunch on Saturday, according to its Instagram page.

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1500 Barton Springs Road

Julietis closed on Thursday, according to the restaurant's Instagram page.

2027 S. Lamar Blvd.

Bouldin Acres is closed on Thursday, according to the bar's Instagram page.

500 W.Fifth St., No. 168

Wu Chow is closed on Thursday and will reopen for dinner on Friday, according to the restaurant's Instagram page.

51 Rainey St., Unit110

Emmer & Rye is closed on Thursday. Updates about when the restaurant will reopen will be posted on its Instagram page.

5033 W. U.S. 290

Taco Ranch is closed on Thursday, according to its Instagram page.

105 Tillery St.

Grizzelda's is closed on Thursday. The eateryplans to reopen when the weather permits, according to the restaurant's Instagram page.

All food truck locations are closed Thursday. The taqueria'slocation at the Line Hotel is open, according to the Veracruz Instagram page.

4710 E. Fifth St.

The restaurant posted on Instagram: "Due to the cold and chaos of driving on ice, for your safety and that of our staff, well be closing the restaurant tonight. For those of you with a reservation this evening, we will be reaching out personally to reschedule."

3220 Manor Road

Batchis closed on Thursday and will not be holding trivia on Friday, according to its Instagram page.

All PhoNatic locations are closed Thursday. They will reopen at noon on Friday, weather permitting, according to the PhoNatic Instagram page.

6555 Burnet Road,No. 100

Bufalina Due is closed Thursday, according to the Bufalina Instagram page.

Home Slice's shops areclosed with plans to reopen at 4 p.m. on Thursday, weather permitting. Updates can be found on Home Slice's Instagram page.

All East Side Pies locations are closed on Thursday, according to its Instagram page. The pizza spot plans to open on Friday.

1610 San Antonio St.

Olamie is closed on Thursday. The restaurant said on Instagram that it will be open Friday night.

1208 W. Fourth St.

Hold Out Brewing is closed on Thursday. The brewery said on Instagram: "Hope to see yall back on Friday, or this weekend, or whenever you find yourself thawed and ready."

606 S. Church St. in Georgetown

The Golden Rule is closed on Thursday, according to its Instagram page.

2717 S. Lamar Blvd., Suite1085

El Naranjo is closed on Thursday and hopes to reopen on Friday. The restaurant will post updates on its Instagram page.

3100 S. Congress Ave., Suite A

Poke-Poke is closed on Thursday and plans to reopen at noon on Friday, according to its Instagram page.

615 S. Lamar Blvd.

Eberly is closed on Thursday and will reopen on Friday for dinner, according to its Instagram page.

6555 Burnet Road #400

Barley Swine will be closed Thursday night. The restaurant plans to reopen on Friday, according to its Instagram page.

All five of Via 313's locations are closed on Thursday. The pizza place will post updates on its Instagram page.

1417 S. 1st St.

The French restaurant is closed on Thursday, according to 1417's Instagram page.

All Crepe Crazy locations are closed on Thursday, according to a statement from the restaurant.

1412 S. Congress Ave.

Guero's is closed on Thursday, according to the restaurant's Instagram page.

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Tony winner Kelli O'Hara is enjoying a golden age in her screen career, with two projects taking center stage at once. On HBO's high-profile drama The Gilded Age from Downton Abbey creator Julian Fellowes, she co-stars with Christine Baranski, Cynthia Nixon, and Carrie Coon, playing a bridge between the backbiting worlds of old money and new. Her work in the Topic streaming series The Accidental Wolf, from Tony nominee Arian Moayed, couldn't be more different; she earned an Emmy nomination in 2018 for her turn as a housewife embroiled in a scandal after she receives a phone call from a stranger being murdered.

For audiences who know and love her meticulous musical performances in The King and I and The Bridges of Madison County (among countless other shows), these two screen roles allow us to see the full breadth of O'Hara's talent. And a third project at the same time, an opera version of Michael Cunningham's The Hours (where she'll sing the role played on screen by Julianne Moore) is icing on the cake.

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For starters, tell me about your character, Aurora Fane.Aurora Fane is a member of the Brook family, which is the Christine Baranski/Cynthia Nixon sect of the show; the old money, if you will. She was definitely raised in this fashion and wants to stay in it, but also starts to be intrigued by a tiny bit of rule-breaking. She becomes a bit of a bridge between the old and the new money by helping to get Bertha Russell, played by Carrie Coon, into the good graces of Mrs. Astor (Donna Murphy) and the Four Hundred, as they called them. So I had my feet in both houses, which was really fun, because I got to be in the Brook house, and see all of those wonderful actors over there, and then I'd get to see Celia Keenan-Bolger and Michael Cerveris [who play servants] in the other house.

I was going to say, the show has more Tony winners per episode than the actual Tony Awards do.It felt like the top of the game, really. I would show up and be really invigorated. It was the cream of the crop, which was really neat. Debra Monk said to me, when we both found out we got it, "Are you upstairs or downstairs? Let me guess." And I said, "What's that supposed to mean?" And she goes, "Well, I'm naturally downstairs." [laughs]

Did it help the process that basically everyone on the show has a theater background?Absolutely. Everyone, from the diction coach to the directors, said, "This is why we did this." A lot of people in the cast are singers, and there's a lilt to the Julian Fellowes language it sort of falls off the tongue. There was a definite air to the place that was screaming with theatrical background, and so it did feel like we had a shorthand. There wasn't a lot of "We want to get out of here." We're all used to the world of work, so there wasn't a lot of complaining. It was just sort of, "Let's do it." And I think that's a theater thing.

I remember being nervous for a couple of days when I was filming a very intimate and wordy scene that I had with Christine and Cynthia and Louisa Jacobson. It was a lot of words that were sort of archaically arranged, and I took a deep breath like, "Just get it together." But there's Christine Baranski staring at me. Finally, we cut, and she goes, "I'm so sorry, it's my character to look at you like this." She knew that she was making this dour face and it was making me nervous. [laughs]

It's fun to watch The Gilded Age at the same time as The Accidental Wolf, which is the polar opposite in terms of tone and is now streaming on the service Topic. Much of that show was filmed years ago and is now blossoming and taking off. What does that mean to you, as the star?Sometimes, gifts are just not immediate. Arian Moayed and I did King Lear at the Public together in 2011 and he said he was going to write something for me, but I never really thought he would be serious. We shot the pilot episode, which was originally a short, and in that episode, I'm nursing a baby. That's my daughter she's eight now, and that tells you how long ago it was.

A couple of years passed, we shoot the whole first season, and what I knew to be true is that I really didn't care what the outcome was. I just thought the opportunity and the experience was such a gift, because each time, he was teaching me. He was teaching me about lenses, he was teaching me about being on set. I mean, I know it's clich to say, but I didn't expect anything from it. I certainly didn't expect an Emmy nomination or anything like that. So, the fact that it did get acquired, and It's being released as a second season, and will be released as a third season and by the way, the third season is my very favorite that's just icing on the cake.

And then you have The Hours opera, which I imagine is like, smack in the middle between the two somewhere.I mean, or out in outer space. I'm learning that right now, so that's in my psyche, as well.

When are you doing The Hours?We have a staged concert not really staged, but a concert with the Philadelphia Philharmonic in March, and then we do it at the Met in the fall, November. The music [by Kevin Puts] is really beautiful, and the libretto [by Greg Pierce] is equally stunning. I'm just wrapping my head around it now and it's starting to make sense to me. And I love the fact that you have these things at the same time, because I don't ever want to be put in one box. I couldn't be happier or more challenged to have these three things happening at once.

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He suggested that Britons get an all-rounder card if they also need to spend on the card.

An allrounder card has a zero percent length for balance transfers and spending, and means people only need to apply for one card.

4 TimeTo get the zero percent and fee, people usually have to do the balance transfer within the first one to three months.

Mr Lewis said: For most cards, the zero percent period is only reserved for balance transfers that are made within the first 60 or 90 days though always check your card for its time limit, as it does vary.

After this has passed, any transfers would incur expensive interest at the card's normal rate, unless it's paid off in full.

5 Transferring between the same banksFor balance transfers, one rule is clear people can't transfer a balance between two cards issued by the same bank, he explained

The money saving expert suggested his top pick zero balance transfer card for new card holders.

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