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When it comes to sex education for our youngest students, what is age-appropriate and what is not?

Its a question a lot of New Jersey parents are asking these days after a couple of sample lesson plans triggered a firestorm of controversy and debate about New Jerseys public school curriculum and the role of parents in education.

First, some background. In 2019, Gov. Phil Murphy signed a law requiring that students learn about the societal contributions of the LGBTQ community. With the goal of promoting inclusivity, the new lesson plans became known as the LGBTQ curriculum. In 2021, at the height of the pandemic, when people were distracted and there was little to no public input, Murphy signed into law a requirement that the public school curriculum promote diversity. Among other things, the lesson plans would speak to gender identification and sexual orientation, starting in kindergarten.

In between those two enactments, New Jerseys unelected State Board of Education released, with no comment whatsoever from the governor, new sex education learning standards, which included students identifying oral, vaginal and anal sex by eighth grade and common human sexual development and the role of hormones (e.g., romantic and sexual feelings, masturbation, mood swings, timing of pubertal onset) by fifth grade.

As I said to the governor during the first gubernatorial debate last fall, There are certain things best taught at the kitchen table between parents and children. His response was to mock the kitchen table.

No doubt, we need a more inclusive community, where bigotry, bullying and hate are never tolerated. We can achieve that by teaching our youngest students the Golden Rule, the power and beauty of diversity, mutual respect, tolerance and the American ideal that we are all created equal. Thats a mainstream lesson plan all parents would wholly embrace and children of any age can grasp.

As for the new sex education standards, as a sixth grader, I remember attending with my father an evening presentation, provided by my public school district. My mom did the same with my sister when she was in fifth grade. The presentation spoke to the bodily and emotional changes adolescents experience. The subject matter was age-appropriate for students and empowering for parents.

When I tell that story, some people say,Times have changed, Jack. Yes, they have. But then again, some things should not. Parents have responsibilities. Its not the job of the school district to replace parents. Partner, yes. Replace, never.

Whats troubled school districts is that the state has not issued guidance the kind that would result from robust public discussion amongst all stakeholders on how to implement the inclusivity and diversity curriculum and meet the new sex education standards. Highly controversial sample lesson plans offered by extreme progressive advocacy groups have only made things worse.

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Progressives are adamant, believing kindergartners should be taught gender identification and sexual orientation that its acceptable for a 5-year-old biological female to be told by her teacher that its OK to identify as a boy. On the other side are those making accusations about grooming kids, an extremely serious charge potentially criminal levied with scant proof.

What cannot be overlooked is the potential conflict were creating in children. Teachers are role models and mentors. If parents do not support and reinforce whats being taught, students will experience a terrible conflict, feeling forced to choose between the most influential people in their young lives.

Traveling the state, my experience has been the vast majority of parents are troubled by the new curriculum and sex education standards. Theyre also angered by being falsely accused of being anti-LGBTQ simply because they disagree with what they view as an age-inappropriate subject matter. The same goes for a great many teachers, whose morale has never been lower, and would-be teachers who are choosing a different career path.

Parents want the public school curriculum to be relevant, but more than anything, they want all subject matter to be age-appropriate. They want a say on how sensitive subject matter should be taught. And they want transparency. What they dont want is to opt out their children from valuable school time, especially when theyre paying the highest property taxes in the nation. I agree on all counts.

The good news is school board meetings are, once again, well-attended by concerned parents, and school districts have some flexibility in meeting the new requirements, though some districts haverejected them outright.

This is important. We need to get it right.The only thing more important than what we teach our children is what parents should teach, what schools should teach and what is and isnt age-appropriate.

Jack Ciattarelli, the 2021 Republican nominee for New Jersey governor and a likely 2025 gubernatorial candidate, is a regular contributor to the opinion pages of USA TODAY Network New Jersey publications.

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