What I Learned From My Father About The Prodigal Son – The Federalist

When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years. So said Mark Twain, and so have felt countless sons. Well past twenty-one, I continue to be astonished at how much my old man has learned.

A memory illustrates. Early last year, I was driving home from Mass with my familyon Sunday morning. There the readings had included the Gospel of Lukes parable of the prodigal son. Its the tale of the headstrong son who demanded and squandered his inheritance and then begged for forgiveness, his older brother who never rebelled, and the father who loved them both.

I had always identified with the prodigal son, and figured everyone else did, too. This is partly due to my Irish heritage which, according to William Butler Yeats, means I have an abiding sense of tragedy, which sustains me through temporary periods of joy.

I said this to my wife, Devin, as we drove home from church. She said she understood the sentiment,but admitted at times feeling a certain kinship with the dutiful elder son.We clearly had interpreted the lesson differently, which surprised me. I decided to consult my father to break the tie.

I called him from the car, asking which character in the parable he identified with most. Easy, he answered. The father. Believing God alone had been, well, perpetually cast in that role, I never thought picking the father was an option. It seemed my dad, when faced with multiple-choice options (a) or (b), was puckishly choosing (c) as a write-in answer. Or so I thought.

Weeks later I shared the breezy exchange with Dr. William Muse of Knoxville, Tennessee.Muse, a contemporary of my father, is a dear friend whom I figured could use a smile. We were together in Dallas where he was tending to his daughter, Amanda, who was dying of cancer. Sad of heart but undaunted in his Catholic faith, he somehow found time to counsel me.

Read this, he said, pitching me Catholic priest and writer Henri Nouwens spiritual classic The Return of the Prodigal Son. Its a meditation inspired by the authors response to a reproduction of Rembrandts eponymous and hauntingly beautiful painting. How strange the book was there in Amandas bookcase, my own poor manstolle legeexperience.Your dad is not wrong. None of you are.

I devoured the book. It taught me that while we tend to be each actor prodigal son, elder son, even the father at different stages of life, we ultimatelyare called to progress tospiritual fatherhood. That is, were called to love one another exactly as the compassionate father did, with self-emptying hearts of mercy.

After all, neither the justice the prodigal son demanded nor the justice the elder son expected ultimately satisfies. Knowing this, the father gave his heirs freely and fully not the mere justice they sought but the far greater mercy they needed.

Justice may even the scales, but in mercy, the world is remade anew.As a broken world, so a penitent man.As we need merciful forgiveness, so must we grant it. As we are loved by God, so must we try to love one another. For nothing you have not given away, as C.S. Lewis wrote, will ever really be yours.

In other words, in the parable of the prodigal son we are, in fact, called to identify with the father, just like my old man said.

A Dutch painter inspired a fellow countryman priest centuries later, whose book helped a Tennessee doctor explain the true meaningof fatherhood to a North Carolina lawyer, but make no mistake. I was once again astonished at how much my old man had learned.

Mike Kerrigan is an attorney in Charlotte, N.C.

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