Man makes brother and family leave child-free wedding after ‘humiliating’ confrontation – Irish Mirror

Emotions can run particualy high at weddings, with stress levels often hitting peak levels despite the happy occasion.

While the nuptials often go off without a hitch, the big day can sometimes be scuppered by dodgy speeches, rows or family dramas.

It was the latter that marred the wedding of one particular couple, resulting in ramifications lasting well beyond the day in question.

The pair had chosen to have a child-free wedding, with guests requested to leave their kids at home for the adult-only event.

However, when the groom's brother chose to ignore the request, drama ensued that the family is still contending with long after the matrimonial occasion.

The newly minted husband felt compelled to ask his sibling and family to leave his wedding, leading to a "humiliating" confrontation in front of guests.

The man has been questioning whether he made the right decision, and posted in Reddit's 'Am I The A**hole' forum to get some impartial opinions.

He explained how the drama unfolded: "My wife and I got married days ago. We decided the wedding will be child free. We thought this was the best option considering several factors from budget to keeping the order, etc.

"Everyone got an invitation but my biggest concern was how my brother 'Ramsey' was going to react. Ramsey married young and has 4 kids that he takes everywhere he and his wife go. They're always there at every family event. The kids are grade A, hyperactive to say the least."

Ramsey was given the invitation in person and got "somewhat mad" at the kid-free rule, saying his children have never been excluded from any event before.

The Reddit poster continued: |I said I'm sorry but it's already been decided and everyone had to follow the rules not just him. He stared off for a minute then to my surprise he said 'I totally get it man, no children means no children, no worries'. I was glad he didn't start an argument over it and seemed to accept the rule."

The big day arrived and when Ramsey and family arrived just before the ceremony, the groom was "legit mad" that the children were in tow, despite the couple's wishes.

The groom said: "I greeted the kids and asked my SIL (sister in law) to take them back to the car. He loudly asked WTF was wrong with me. I asked why he brought his kids and who said it was OK.

"He said no one but he was planning on bringing the kids all along and figured that by initially agreeing to my rule then showing up with the kids anyway would get me to agree on letting them stay.

"I stated this was no event for kids for many reasons and that everyone respected the rule except him. He complained about me disrespecting him and his kids since, again, he never attends any event without them.

"I told him he needed to leave then. Not only did he call me a lunatic but a terrible brother and terrible uncle. He also called me a simp for agreeing to my wife's 'stupid' rule saying if that was him and his wife even hinted he couldn't have the family's kids at their wedding he would've dropped her right there right then.

"It was humiliating and loud enough for the guests to notice. My inlaws did too. I told him to leave that's when my mom and aunt tried to convince me to let it go and let them stay but I refused and had him leave after a massive argument between us. To say that I felt absolutely sh***y is an understatement."

He added that ever since the showdown happened, his family have been giving him grief and "are siding with Ramsey saying I wronged him and acted cold towards him and his kids when they showed up to celebrate me and my wife".

The brothers' father is particularly mad over their relationship being permanently affected.

The new husband told Reddit users: "I believe that I behaved like an a****** towards my brother who came with his family to support me and my wife and share our joy. I get he's upset and even shocked I'd get him to leave like that and refusing to listen to my family and compromise."

However, most people believed he acted reasonably in his response to his brother not adhering to the wedding request.

One person said: "As a parent, I hate people like the brother so much. Makes the rest of us parents look like idiots. Childfree is childfree FFS. Get a sitter. Damn. Quit pushing your kids down peoples throats."

A second added: "I mean, the bride and groom get to make the call about their wedding. Don't like it? Don't go. If it seems unreasonable to you, DON'T GO. If you care about the people, send a nice gift anyway.

"It makes me INSANE when parents try and drag their kids to things when they're clearly not invited."

A third said: "As a mom YES! NTA. One of my first questions when asked to do something is if it's kid-friendly.

"If the answer is yes, then awesome, if it's no, cool thank you for the invite, if I can find a babysitter I'll be there. If not I appreciate the offer. Like my kids are my responsibility, not for everyone else to deal with."

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Man makes brother and family leave child-free wedding after 'humiliating' confrontation - Irish Mirror