As a Brit abroad post-Brexit, I wanted to wear a badge saying: Dont look at me I didnt vote for this! – The Guardian

It used to be a reliable middle-class hack: if you wanted a zero-effort holiday, with no decisions except whether to have a pina colada or a beer, you went somewhere French-run and all-inclusive. The business model relies upon a large number of abstemious French people who prefer aqua aerobics, and a small but noticeable number of quietly extravagant British people. Then you would chat to them in halting French, and they would take over in much more expert English.

French parenting is incredibly harsh, and the swimming pool resounds to the sound of: Non, crtin! Who knows what this does to the long-term adult prospects of the three-year-old miscreants, but it makes the bar incredibly peaceful and nice, since only the kids who arent carrying on are in there. This is the way its been for years.

And then what happened? Was it Brexit? I probably ought to list a number of other factors, for balance, but sod it. Its definitely Brexit: it somehow killed Anglo-French holiday cohabitation, which is why the four of us ended up the sole British family by a Tunisian beach, the only people for miles around who didnt know whether Fanta was masculine or feminine, and were too thirsty to Google it.

This is a bad new world: theres nothing to be said for it. I cant tell you the number of times I was asked whether I was Flemish or from the Netherlands. I was incompetent enough that I clearly wasnt French, yet nobody expects to meet a British family who can even say merci any more. No, not German either! Canadian, then? A Swiss family approached at one point and said: We heard you were here, but didnt believe it. Youre an endangered species!

There are the serious consequences of our departure from the EU, and they have been ably listed by everyone: the slide into recession that was just unnecessary and wilful, the wanton destruction of small businesses and trade, the sheer national self-sabotage that all remoaners predicted, only to see those very predictions turned against them. Then there are the myriad inconveniences: the queues at airports, the indignity of a blue passport that you didnt choose and, nevertheless, have to carry like a badge, the new weird restrictions that come from no longer being part of the club.

But theres atmospheric stuff, too: I think the perception is that our whole nation has turned against internationalism. When you try to speak another language not very well, people look at you like a dog standing on its hind legs. When you vape constantly, other vapers look surprised, as if thats a laidback European thing now, the British being perceived as joyless and self-flagellating, otherwise how else to explain us? When you queue by a bar, people give way to you, as though youre so exceedingly Viking that who knows what youll do otherwise?

I wanted to wear a badge saying: Dont look at me I didnt vote for this, much like the one that my mum made me wear after the general election of 1983 (a weird statement: I was 10, so obviously). I wanted to act the internationalist ambassador by, I dont know, maybe being able to play ptanque, or not getting sunburnt on the very first day, or knowing the intricate leg routine to Freed from Desire, which for some reason the French, who run their dancefloors like aerobics classes, can all do in sync.

I wanted to make some gesture of atonement and reconciliation, to which the closest I got was walking around with a shit-eating half-smile on my face. I managed one full conversation the whole week, when I flipped some pickles out of a jar and they went everywhere. Sorry, I said (in French!), its very difficult. Actually, some impossibly stylish woman replied, its really easy. Thats what you want. A level of continental familiarity where people are amusingly rude to you. Now people are mostly eerily polite.

Zoe Williams is a Guardian columnist

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