Guyana: Psychotherapist Carlotta Boodie on relationship red flags | Loop Caribbean News – Loop Caribbean News

Given that societal perceptions of relationships are often deep-rooted in unhealthy behaviours and practises, it can be difficult for many to immediately identify red flags. Psychotherapist, Carlotta Boodie believes that this has resulted in many persons staying in unhealthy relationships, as more positive representations have never been modeled for them.

Often lack of boundaries such as frequent calls, surprise visits and check-ins are demonstrated as being representations of romantic love. This however must be viewed with extreme caution, as it can be indicators of a controlling personality, said Carlotta. We feel like the more attention someone gives us, the more they love us and we tend to romanticise jealousy, but be mindful of those who try to be in constant communication with you and get upset if youre not always readily available.

When we are thinking about relationships and whether they may be healthy or not, Carlotta said that we should consider how the relationship makes us feel. You need to think about what it is that you want from a relationship, whether you are currently receiving that, and how you are feeling while in it. If you feel like you cannot be your own self in a relationship that is a major red flag. If you are naturally an extroverted person and when youre around them, youre reserved or restrained; you have to think about why you are feeling so uncomfortable in your skin when youre with them. Another thing to look out for are those who try to remove your identity. If they dont like your hair, the way you eat, or the things you are interested in, that is a danger sign that you need to avoid.

While relationships can be complex, Carlotta stated that one thing one must not try to do is push or rush their relationship. Take time in getting to know someone and ensure that basic things such as respect and acceptance are present. Ensure you are able to communicate and be honest with the person. If you feel as if you are walking around on eggshells with them, that may not be the relationship for you. If you ever feel unsafe, know that there are several online and in-person places that you can reach out to, said Carlotta.

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