How do you get to know someones true personality? It would seem weird to ask a relative stranger about their values and beliefs.

Luckily, the following questions are good conversation starters that reveal more than you might think. Read on to find some great deep questions to ask someone to get to know them better.

When thinking of deep questions to ask people to get a conversation started, it can be wise to pick ones that cant be answered with a yes or no. Those types of questions lead to stilted conversations and awkward pauses.

Instead, pick an interesting subject that will help the other person open up a bit about themselves and their views.

Asking the right questions can stimulate more meaningful and interesting conversations. They can lead to the discovery of common interests and mutual understanding.

It is as well to be cautious about how you ask someone questions. You dont want them to feel they are being grilled or that you are asking questions that are too revealing. Bear these points in mind and choose questions that gradually help you to get to know the other person.

The most important factor in getting to know someone is actually as much to do with how you listen than what questions you ask them. Give your attention fully to what they say so that you can respond appropriately and begin to develop a deeper bond.

Dont forget to share something about yourself too. If you force the other person into doing all the talking, they can begin to feel pressured. This can make them feel vulnerable and as if the relationship is one-sided. Sharing something personal, but not too personal, about yourself can help to build trust.

These questions are light-hearted and will not seem too weird to a potential new acquaintance. However, they can actually reveal a lot about what the other person enjoys, cares for and dreams of.

Once you know someone a bit better, you might like to ask some deeper questions. These questions reveal more about a persons background and fundamental beliefs and values as well as their accomplishments and what drives them in life.

The last questions are some of the deepest and should be saved for when you know someone reasonably well. Some of them ask the other person to reveal very personal details and become quite vulnerable.

So make sure they are comfortable with the questions and dont push too hard if they dont want to answer. If they seem uneasy, switch back to some more light-hearted questions for now.

These questions are all great conversation starters, but they often reveal more than you think about a persons values in life. They seem quite casual but can tell us a lot about another persons personality, desires and values.

Of course, you must consider the situation and the other persons reaction. Some people do not like to give away too much information about themselves too quickly.

Allow the person to feel comfortable in what they reveal about themselves and dial it back if you suspect they are uneasy.

At the end of the day, there is no point in rushing into a relationship with someone. Asking these questions can help you get started, but remember that the best friendships and relationships take time and commitment to develop.

Contributing writer at Learning Mind

Kirstie Pursey holds a diploma in creative writing from the Open University and works as a writer, blogger, and storyteller. She lives in London with her family of people, dogs, and cats. She is a lover of reading, writing, being in nature, fairy lights, candles, fireside, and afternoon tea.

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