‘Just how in the hell did this become my life?’ – The Daily Advertiser

Lisa Ann Published 9:18 a.m. CT June 14, 2017 | Updated 7 hours ago

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Lisa is a single mom who is opening up about love and divorce.(Photo: FILE PHOTO)

Editor's Note:

This is the first installment of a new column titled "Red Curtains." Here, this Lafayette mom will open up about something very personal - and relatable. After 17years of marriage, Lisa and her husband divorced - and it wasn't something she saw coming. Now, fiveyears later, she's ready to share her story - and help others along the way.

Adversity.

This word can either destroy or strengthen.

Up until now, Ive tried to be very private to my own fault but this was not always the case. Full disclosure of our guarded feelings will sometimes hurt if they are said out loud, but if we are being sincere, then why not just find a way to express whats really going on?

Some of us are reaching for something ... anything that will give us clarity of how a certain event or even a life circumstance can completely shatter what we have always known to be safe.

I am beginning this column with months and years of actually wanting to share this journey and honestly, being a little scared to open my heart for fear of judgement. I have considered every single person who would read this, and finally, I am ready to put it out there. I will be truthful and honest, and I promise toinspire others who have been in my shoes.

To my ex-husband: You betrayed me - and I forgive you

My own personal circumstances may be familiar to some, and to those who are going through what Ive been through, this may be a story that will help you from falling off the cliff and trust me it is with my own very reluctant humility that I have taken so long to share and finally acknowledge exactly what I have had to face -the challenges, the struggle its real. Its hard.

Ive had a really difficult time facing my past, but an even harder time facing my future. I tried to run from this fear but, in many different aspects of finding my own identity, I thought about where I was, where I am now and realized that if I can reach just one person who is about to fall, well, thats enough.

Let me begin by saying that sometimes we arent ready to see or know our truth. It takes time and thought, mixed with opening our hearts and minds to heal. I have been in a place where some have been before, some are in now, and some will never understand.

My journey began way before my actual divorce, and it was something I never saw coming. Life as we know it, can change within a minuteI truly believe that everyone goes through some sense of a life trial, not knowing exactly where they are going or how to get there. We can choose to give up, or we can choose to fight our way through it. I choose to fight.

This is not a choice..

We all have our stories and they are all different, but the one thing we all have in common is something so deep that we can begin to move forward or live in the past, with regret and always wondering ... just how in the hell did this become my life??????

This is not just about divorce, its about finding that part of ourselves that we all lose at some point #justbeingreal.

So ... buckle your seat belts.

Its about to get real. Ready????????

#Lets go.

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